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Post by Johncoyne on Jun 21, 2010 21:32:27 GMT -5
So, I've been thinking about this for a while. See, because I'm actually a pedophile involved in a theater group with many little kids in it, this comes up often. I see twelve year olds dating and it makes me think: WHY?!?!?!
Skip ahead if you don't want to hear about my social life.
I dated a girl when I was thirteen. I was stupid. It lasted two weeks. I was immature. It was really awkward. I shouldn't have gone out with her.
K, done.
Now I'm 14. When I'm 15 I'm going to look back and say, "Wow, I was really dumb back then"
ANYWAY: How young is too young to date? I'm not sure about this one right now. 12 is definitely too young. I'm on the fence about 13.
Something tells me I would be saying something COMPLETELY different if I was older.
So what do YOU think?
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Post by click3tyclick on Jun 21, 2010 21:35:10 GMT -5
No one's too young to date. Just listen to your heart/soul (it depends on the cartoon) and do what feels right!
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Post by sun on Jun 21, 2010 21:36:38 GMT -5
Well, at 13 I had one girlfriend. It was quite shallow, more or less something to "fit in." I think that once your in grade 9-ish or 10. It's more "true"
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Post by Johncoyne on Jun 21, 2010 21:36:23 GMT -5
That's what they eleven year olds say. YES I JUST SAID ELEVEN. WHA?!?!
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Post by snow11 on Jun 21, 2010 21:40:43 GMT -5
Meh, I'm not into dating yet. Don't really care what age. I think all is fair game.
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Post by chelseeyuh on Jun 21, 2010 21:41:05 GMT -5
I don't think there's necessarily an age where it's "too young to date," but I do think that dating before a certain age is just completely pointless. Middle school relationships are just absurd because it doesn't usually change anything between the people (except for the few "early bloomers" who end up with babies before they're even in high school) and obviously it won't last.. But I think even dating when you're 14/15/16/17 is pointless. I've decided that teenagers are incapable of love, even though they like to fool themselves into believing that they can. But you're going to break up anyway and it's going to hurt and you'll just have wasted your time, so why bother in the first place?
Um... that probably doesn't answer your question. My bad >_<
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Post by Johncoyne on Jun 21, 2010 21:43:44 GMT -5
dating when you're 14/15/16/17 is pointless. It is. That's what I've been thinking. But yet I still don't think it's a bad idea. Do I make sense or do I need to go to sleep? |
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Post by snow11 on Jun 21, 2010 21:44:14 GMT -5
Middle school relationships are just absurd because it doesn't usually change anything between the people (except for the few "early bloomers" who end up with babies before they're even in high school) Secret Life Of An American Teenager. Horrible example for young teens. |
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Post by Johncoyne on Jun 21, 2010 21:46:13 GMT -5
I can't stand that show. Like, GAH.
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Post by chelseeyuh on Jun 21, 2010 21:49:13 GMT -5
dating when you're 14/15/16/17 is pointless. It is. That's what I've been thinking. But yet I still don't think it's a bad idea. Do I make sense or do I need to go to sleep? I guess it makes sense... But I do think that for some (most) people, it is a bad idea because they're dumb and think they're in love the second they start dating and then they get treated like SHIRT and jgjknsgdjfn I'm just gunna stop. Teenagers are dumb. Middle school relationships are just absurd because it doesn't usually change anything between the people (except for the few "early bloomers" who end up with babies before they're even in high school) Secret Life Of An American Teenager. Horrible example for young teens. I was in 8th grade before that show existed, and there was a pregnant girl in my class. You can't just blame TV |
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Post by jaw on Jun 21, 2010 22:01:54 GMT -5
Everyone knows the dating rule! It's the oldest person in the relationship divided by 2 + 7.... Everyone knows that right?
I think the age should start at 13 for dating haha. 12 seems pretty creepers...
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Post by Philosoraptor on Jun 21, 2010 22:27:45 GMT -5
A good rule of thumb is that if you're still not sure if you're old enough to be in a relationship, you're probably not.
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Post by Benyamin on Jun 21, 2010 22:29:28 GMT -5
Well, im not much past middle school, and most of what i saw was
boyfriend: goes and stands behind girl in lunch line
girlfriend: smiles
gets lunch and goes to lunch tables
im dont think thats called dating
as for your question
15 ish
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Post by Philosoraptor on Jun 21, 2010 22:39:14 GMT -5
I have seen more than a few examples of steady, serious relationships before 16, but I'd put the ultimatum somewhere between 16 and 17.
But, again, if you have to think a good deal about whether or not you are ready for a serious relationship, you probably shouldn't jump into one right away.
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Post by ladystardust on Jun 21, 2010 23:11:10 GMT -5
If you don't make stupid mistakes and learn from them when you're 12-13, then you'll make stupid mistakes and learn from them when you're older. The process is necessary to mature emotionally. I'd suggest not putting up too much of a fight if your parents have a set rule, though - it's not worth it.
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Post by earth on Jun 21, 2010 23:20:29 GMT -5
eeeh. ive never had a girlfriend. but i think it depends on the person. i think 12 or 13 is a tad young but heck if someone is in love or thinks that or is immature enough to believe that the heck with whatever anyone else says.
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Post by Philosoraptor on Jun 21, 2010 23:40:43 GMT -5
I had a pretty good track record as far as not making stupid mistakes goes when I was 12-13, and I turned out pretty solid.I've been doing pretty good just getting by with learning from the mistakes of others, I guess.
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Post by Yokailo on Jun 21, 2010 23:47:10 GMT -5
I'm 15 and I have a boyfriend.. I do consider it quite serious, but I know that once I'm a little older I'll think this was stupid and meaningless. But I don't care, because he's lovely in all ways.  So I don't think you can really put an age on this.. There are some people that just shouldn't get boy/girlfriends because they're not mature enough to handle it, and it'll only be irritating and awkward for them and to watch.  |
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Post by low on Jun 22, 2010 13:28:49 GMT -5
Everyone knows the dating rule! It's the oldest person in the relationship divided by 2 + 7.... Everyone knows that right? I think the age should start at 13 for dating haha. 12 seems pretty creepers... The formula for upper limit of the older person's age (A o) and the lower limit of the younger person's age, A y, can be written as follows: A o( 1/ 2)+7=A y2(A y-7)=A oThat's just me being very nerdy. BUT, to forgo the nerdiness and actually be smart: It's a rule of thumb and is thus just some arbitrary meaningless formula grounded on societal mores. How mature someone is has less to do with age than it does with individual genetics and brain development. The area of the brain responsible for judgment and responsible decision-making, the prefrontal cortex, reaches full maturity in most males around 25-30 and in most females around 20-25. Now, no one seems to be of the opinion that you should have to wait until you're in your 20's to date (although we all probably agree that a 12 year old shouldn't date a 20 year old), but some of us would probably use this fact as good reasoning to say that very serious relationships should wait a while, until judgment is more sound (casual dating, no children, no marriage, is a better option for people below that age group). Now, of course, not everyone has physical maturity occur at the same age and most people, especially most teenagers, don't have access to an MRI machine, so you just have to try your best to accurately gauge the maturity of yourself and others...though it can be challenging. |
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Post by Cortney on Jun 22, 2010 14:19:49 GMT -5
There's not an age, there's a mentality.
For the most part, I'd say college is when the serious dating starts. High school stuff is mostly for shiggles and to fit in (or to get laid). Not that it doesn't happen in college, too. I just think real dating doesn't really happen until you're actually seeking a serious relationship and possibly marriage, which doesn't happen until college at the earliest, IMO. (and if you're looking for marriage in high school...have fun with that...)
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