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Post by Jackson on Sept 18, 2010 18:16:35 GMT -5
Okay, so I'm in 7th grade, and the people in my grade are f*cking obsessed with dating. Seriously, people get rejected and are caught crying in bathroom stalls, people cheat, break up with their boyfriend for a different person, and get legitimately mad if people don't say yes to them. And most of this is done through the cowards medium, Facebook. IMO, dating just ruins friendships and is almost pointless at this age. What's your opinion?
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Post by Lex on Sept 18, 2010 18:25:46 GMT -5
Dating isn't for me. I'm sixteen and I don't think I'm ready for it at all. It has to do with being ready for it. Most kids at that age you mentioned probably aren't ready enough for it.
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Post by Quinn on Sept 18, 2010 18:53:58 GMT -5
I'M IN 7TH GRADE TOO!!!!
I think it's okay. As long as the kids don't get in trouble.
People around our age are in to much of a hurry to grow up.
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Post by Benyamin on Sept 18, 2010 19:17:11 GMT -5
SO AM I
and what alex said
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Post by Jackson on Sept 18, 2010 19:17:22 GMT -5
Dating isn't for me. I'm sixteen and I don't think I'm ready for it at all. It has to do with being ready for it. Most kids at that age you mentioned probably aren't ready enough for it. I know, people aren't ready for it at all. That's why I haven't done it yet. People actually legitimately hate each after a relationship goes sour.
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Post by elephantshoes on Sept 18, 2010 20:28:41 GMT -5
I don't care what age you are, as long as you're comfortable dating.
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Post by James McClelland on Sept 19, 2010 3:06:31 GMT -5
Forum's filled with sevies I'm in the 8th grade. I date and stuff. My first relationship was in my 7th grade year with an 8th grader. I say date when you're mentally able to. Over-emotional stupid little kids shouldn't date.
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Post by rialvestro on Sept 19, 2010 4:11:03 GMT -5
Over-emotional stupid little kids shouldn't date. What exactly do you define as "over-emotional" because that could mean anything from crying during a sad movie to crying because of a broken toy that was never really broken in the first place. (ball joints are awesome!)
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Post by Kevak on Sept 19, 2010 4:31:01 GMT -5
Well I'm in 8th, but I dated with someone in seventh, the thing is, after we broke up we sorta stayed friends.
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Post by rialvestro on Sept 19, 2010 6:03:33 GMT -5
Well I'm in 8th, but I dated with someone in seventh, the thing is, after we broke up we sorta stayed friends. You say that like it's a weird thing? Truth is depending on the cause of the break up it is actually possible to remain friends with your ex. I mean I wouldn't try to stay friends with someone who was abusive or something serious like that but if it's a simple matter of not having chemistry together then why not stay friends? My first girl friend and I were together for about 2 weeks. After that she went to another state for a month to visit her family and help a friend. We dated long distance for a while after that, I couldn't go with her because I was starting work and hand to finish out my contract with the theater before I could leave. Anyway, this happened three times where she extended her stay and it got to the point where I felt she was never coming back. During the time when we were still dating we planed for me to go to her once my show was over but we broke up before that happen. I had already paid for it though and non-refundable so we decided I was still going to visit for 2 weeks as a friend. Plus I needed some time away from other problems I was having. Anyway, if we hadn't have broken up for that reason it would of been something else. She wanted kids, I didn't. Plus she's a diabetic which causes problems for me. Mainly the mental challenge of I don't want her to die but at the same time I don't want her to stab herself all the time but I can't have it both ways and the only compromise I could come up with was don't check her blood sugar in front of me. She did check her blood sugar once in front of me before she knew how I felt about it then noticed I was giving her a strange look and told me why she did it. Then I told her I knew that when she did it but I'm not use to people stabbing themselves right next to me. This was before we started dating when I first met her. At the time she was married to someone I use to be friends with and I was witness to him treating her badly and helped her out with a place to stay during their divorce.
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Post by Joey on Sept 19, 2010 17:48:31 GMT -5
Wow, lots of eighth graders, worst year of my life(jk i loved it, but high school is better).
I say date when you are ready. And if you feel like you have to date to date, then your not ready. It comes naturally, and if you push it(like I did) it is miserable. You might see all your friends get dates too soon, but if you try and nothing is working, let it be(beatles FTW!). Have fun, and girls(or guys) will come to you!
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Post by James McClelland on Sept 19, 2010 18:10:42 GMT -5
Over-emotional stupid little kids shouldn't date. What exactly do you define as "over-emotional" See OP's post. Also, people getting so worked up and sad over the littlest things. So your boyfriend broke up with you, you're a fucking 12 year old, get over it. Like relationships really matter at this age anyway.
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Post by Jackson on Sept 19, 2010 19:06:44 GMT -5
What exactly do you define as "over-emotional" See OP's post. Also, people getting so worked up and sad over the littlest things. So your boyfriend broke up with you, you're a fucking 12 year old, get over it. Like relationships really matter at this age anyway. ^This.
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Post by rialvestro on Sept 19, 2010 20:11:51 GMT -5
What exactly do you define as "over-emotional" See OP's post. Also, people getting so worked up and sad over the littlest things. So your boyfriend broke up with you, you're a fucking 12 year old, get over it. Like relationships really matter at this age anyway. I wouldn't really call that little. I mean, that same stuff happens even as adults. The only legitimate difference is that the chances of actually finding someone to spend the rest of your life with when you're still in school is slim to non. Seriously I think the record for longest relationship was like 2 weeks in high school. Not my relationship because I was always to shy to even speak to girls but pretty much every single one of my friends was dating someone. Anyway... as an adult you kind of realize how slim your chances were of staying with any of the girls you may or may not have dated in school but you know when you were 12 you were the exact same way so why complain about it now. They'll figure it out when they're older. Anyway, everything at that age is a learning experience. The relationships might not last but they do matter. Trial by error, so long as you realize why that relationship failed you can do better with the next one. The only real experience I ever had in school was avoiding probably the only girl who actually liked me because at the time I wasn't even into girls yet and writing a note to one girl who apparently thought I was some kind of pervert due to a simple misunderstanding of how well my vision is. She thought I was watching her change back stage. I found this out later from a friend and I actually had no idea she was even undressing in that area back stage, I was only there because all my entrances were made from that spot. I can't even see more that 2 feet away with the lights on and this was in the dark. I did see two other girls changing but one of them I walked away to the other side of the stage after I realized she didn't have a shirt on and the other intentionally stripped right in front of me and continued talking to me like it was perfectly normal.
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Post by Flappy on Sept 19, 2010 20:47:30 GMT -5
I feel 17+ is a good age, but like Alex said, it's all about when you're ready. It shouldn't be rushed, and pressure from peers and media are an awful thing. In America especially, since sex education isn't taught from an early age and because of the way media influences us so young, we are both pressured into a relationship and sexual activities, and we aren't educated on safety, etc.
Anyway...America is screwed up...what else is new?
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Post by rialvestro on Sept 19, 2010 23:04:56 GMT -5
I feel 17+ is a good age, but like Alex said, it's all about when you're ready. It shouldn't be rushed, and pressure from peers and media are an awful thing. In America especially, since sex education isn't taught from an early age and because of the way media influences us so young, we are both pressured into a relationship and sexual activities, and we aren't educated on safety, etc. Anyway...America is screwed up...what else is new? I agree on the education part of it. Adults in the U.S. go threw great lengths to hide the fact that sex exists though that's a little harder to do now with the internet. It's not like there's a password, there's just a safe search on off toggle and even with that on you can still find porn. The media however doesn't really effect anyone till after they know what sex is otherwise all the sexual innuendo is completely lost. Heck, there is sexual humor in children's cartoons that I only understood as an adult. Right now my main problem with U.S. laws is in regards to public nudity laws, mainly in regards to when and who is allowed to expose their chest in public. Males can and do for the most part take their shirts off in public all the time. I personally do not. Females is where it gets confusing. Why do young girls need tops when they look exactly the same as boys at that age? And even more confusing. People got all worked up over Janet Jackson's exposed breast because "children saw her breast" but at the same time the U.S. encourages women to breastfeed and exposing your breast while feeding is perfectly legal. OK Why is breastfeeding OK but the breast itself is bad? You can't have it both ways. Either make breastfeeding illegal or make it legal for women to go topless in public at any time they wish. And either make both boys and girls cover up or allow them both to go topless, they look the same so what are girls covering. There's nothing to cover till puberty. Make sense please! My other problem with all of this. If the U.S. is so against gays then why do we set the laws to make kids grow up gay? What I mean is, the laws are set up basically just to keep children from ever seeing the opposite gender naked. The only people kids ever see is their own gender so it's really wonder that they end up turning out gay when the only people they have any opportunity with have the same parts. Seriously, the way people try to raise kids it's always, "what are you so afraid of, you all have the same parts?" and anyone who looks at the opposite gender is automatically labeled a pervert like it's a bad thing. It's amazing anyone comes out straight when the only thing we're taught about sex at a young age is that the opposite gender is icky and we should be comfortable in the nude with people who have the same parts. *sarcasm*nope that doesn't sound gay at all*sarcasm*
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Post by Lex on Sept 23, 2010 15:43:49 GMT -5
My other problem with all of this. If the U.S. is so against gays then why do we set the laws to make kids grow up gay? What I mean is, the laws are set up basically just to keep children from ever seeing the opposite gender naked. The only people kids ever see is their own gender so it's really wonder that they end up turning out gay when the only people they have any opportunity with have the same parts. Since when was being gay solely a product of conditioning? Hasn't that been proven false somewhere?
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Post by rialvestro on Sept 23, 2010 16:14:35 GMT -5
My other problem with all of this. If the U.S. is so against gays then why do we set the laws to make kids grow up gay? What I mean is, the laws are set up basically just to keep children from ever seeing the opposite gender naked. The only people kids ever see is their own gender so it's really wonder that they end up turning out gay when the only people they have any opportunity with have the same parts. Since when was being gay solely a product of conditioning? Hasn't that been proven false somewhere? I don't think anything is SOLELY a product of conditioning but it is a part of it. And technically no, it hasn't been proven false, at least not entirely. We know it's not THE cause but we don't know it can't be A cause.
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Post by Lex on Sept 23, 2010 17:08:20 GMT -5
Are you trying to say that being gay is a bad thing and that we should try our best to eliminate it?
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Post by rialvestro on Sept 23, 2010 17:45:37 GMT -5
Are you trying to say that being gay is a bad thing and that we should try our best to eliminate it? I've said it before and I'll say it again, I really don't know where I stand on the issue. The only thing I know for sure is that I personally do not want to have that kind of relationship with another man. I have friends who are gay and that kinda of changed my original position on the whole thing because I didn't know they were gay when I met them it seemed kinda stupid to me to end the friendship just because of that. As long as they don't try to be any more than friends with me I don't care what they do. If you want to take that as a bad thing, maybe it is, I don't know.
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