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Post by thelighterdark on Aug 5, 2010 23:29:06 GMT -5
Basically this girl came to my school at the start of my Senior year last year, 2009.
She was in drumline and so was I. I had a girlfriend at the time and a few weeks after school started we were done. Me and this girl really hadn't talked before besides a few words about drumline and all that fun stuff.
But then we became pretty good friends and I really got to be close to her. Over Christmas break we kind of fell apart from that but then we started being close friends again. The second semester of school, my [guy] friends did some stuff that really wasn't fair to me and we stopped being friends. This girl really didn't have too many friends as well, so me and her started eating lunch together a few times a week. We started telling each other a lot of stuff over the rest of the year and ended on a really good note.
Summer came and we hung out a few times, nothing special. She said she would be busy most of summer so I let her go her own way til school started again for her (She's a Senior now, I'm a Freshman in college).
But I went back to my old high school to help the kids learn how to play drums (they really suck lol). Me and her really got to talk there (and for hours after some of the days) and really caught back up.
I suppose I've "felt this way" about her on and off for months, and I really want to tell her. But I don't want to ruin my friendship with her, because I really don't have anyone left. But I don't want to go the rest of my life knowing that I very well missed a good chance with an awesome girl.
Any ideas?
EDIT: So sorry about wrong thread. Haha. And thanks for responding Admin who moved it. >_<
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Post by mrelliotb on Aug 6, 2010 1:32:22 GMT -5
I'm only 13, so I suppose I probably am not the best person to ask about relationships, but I say if you really like her, you should tell her. She won't want to just stop being friends with you just because of that! & if she does, then she must not be as truly awesome as you say she is.
I say, go for it!
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thelighterdark
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Post by thelighterdark on Aug 6, 2010 1:39:13 GMT -5
Hey man thanks for the response. And there is no age requirement when it comes to having an opinion!
I really want to tell her, which stresses me out because if you know me (IRL OMGAWD), you know that I always encourage people to tell girls (or guys, vice versa) their feeling in person, because the odds of her appreciating you will be that much more. Texting her that pretty much means you don't like her enough to tell her something important in person.
Maybe after she starts school and gets through all of this stress that has been dropped on her lately.
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Post by Joey on Aug 6, 2010 13:49:31 GMT -5
haha I was in the same situation and asked the moon for help. I just ended up telling her. She rejected me. But we still were friends and now we are super awesome friends again.
I would say tell her. If she is someone you like, then clearly she isnt the type of person that will hate you for liking her. It might be kindof akward and you might grow apart, but in a month or two you will be friends again. Just if she says no, then dont let it get you down.
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Post by nicolii on Aug 6, 2010 14:18:53 GMT -5
I would say tell her. If she is someone you like, then clearly she isnt the type of person that will hate you for liking her. It might be kindof akward and you might grow apart, but in a month or two you will be friends again. Just if she says no, then dont let it get you down. ^^^ I agree with this person. Best of luck! |
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Post by thelighterdark on Aug 6, 2010 19:12:51 GMT -5
haha I was in the same situation and asked the moon for help. I just ended up telling her. She rejected me. But we still were friends and now we are super awesome friends again. I would say tell her. If she is someone you like, then clearly she isnt the type of person that will hate you for liking her. It might be kindof akward and you might grow apart, but in a month or two you will be friends again. Just if she says no, then dont let it get you down. Yeah definitely! Great advice. We would never hate each other, that's for sure. It's just starting to hit me (and oppositely, her) that I will be going to college and things will really be changing for the both of us. Still don't want to miss this chance. |
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Post by Joey on Aug 6, 2010 22:04:00 GMT -5
Life is going to happen. And you arent going to get a redo(unless time travel works out but still).
You never know. But Ive decided that Im never going to ask what if? Take a chance, and have a good time no matter what happens. Life dosent have to suck.
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Post by NormanTheOne on Aug 6, 2010 22:20:38 GMT -5
Dude I was on and off with my friend for 6 months, I took a chance and hit home-run (cause she was on and off for 6 months too). It's better to just do what you think you should, and not ask WHAT IF in the future.
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Post by Jackson on Aug 6, 2010 23:18:36 GMT -5
I agree, just put it all on the line and let her know. If that doesnt work, just take it as a sign that maybe she needs a little more convincing to choose you. Do something special for her, and maybe that'll work. Heck, but what do I know? I'm only 13.
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Post by thelighterdark on Aug 6, 2010 23:27:25 GMT -5
Yeah I guess you're right. It's just so weird to think about cause it's one of those "We're just REALLY REALLY good friends" situations.
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Post by Jackson on Aug 7, 2010 0:02:15 GMT -5
i mean, you got one chance, maybe two if shes nice about it, better make the best of it.
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Post by stealth1994 on Aug 7, 2010 0:12:27 GMT -5
i say do what ever you heart tells you to you to do because that what i did and im almost one and half years with my girl.  |
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Post by thelighterdark on Aug 7, 2010 0:29:22 GMT -5
Yeah man, I know I know. Gotta do it!
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Post by stealth1994 on Aug 7, 2010 0:32:52 GMT -5
When you do it be your self and don't try any of the "cool" stuff because its chessy
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Post by thelighterdark on Aug 7, 2010 0:35:06 GMT -5
I know. I kind of have a plan in my head and if it works it works.
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Post by Rogers91 on Aug 7, 2010 1:56:59 GMT -5
yeah tell her how you feel.
if you think its right.. do try though to look away from the emotional part and try to see her for who she really is.
alot of times your perseption of someone can be clouded by your emotional attachment to them.
i have a story for this situation.. yey stories
once upon a time an odd kid became friends with a very attractive and nice girl. she assumed he had friends and was cool but in reality he was a home schooled dork who's best friend was his brother. the boy and girl became friends and in time knew each other very well or so the boy thought.
then one day the boy asked someone who he thought was a friend if asking the girl out was a good idea. the friend said no and the boy gave up. then the boys friend asked out the girl and started dateing her. then one day the girl smashed in the so called friends head with a metal pot you use to cook fish. he suffered severe head trauma and she eventualy went to a ward for the mentaly insane where we realized she had a dual personality and i was friends with the nice one..
yeah good times..
it actualy makes sence once you payed attention to the way she acted but i dont think i wanted to see that side of her in the first place.
i doubt this situation would play out for you but still it wouldn't hurt to make sure your eyes are open.
ohh well best of luck.
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Post by Joey on Aug 7, 2010 8:46:16 GMT -5
^holy SHIRT! Damn that Is one hell of a story!
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Post by NormanTheOne on Aug 7, 2010 12:34:30 GMT -5
^holy SHIRT! Damn that Is one hell of a story! Picnic-face stole my words there. |
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Post by thelighterdark on Aug 7, 2010 12:56:59 GMT -5
Haha that's freakin' epic.
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Post by iloveoscar on Aug 7, 2010 22:08:33 GMT -5
pics lol
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