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Post by paradoxasaurus on Apr 17, 2010 13:29:33 GMT -5
I myself am asexual, or rather am not attracted to anything in the matter of sex or physical attraction, but have been told by numerous people that that is impossible. I personally don't believe them, obviously by my asexuality, but wonder if it is just how I was born or just because of past events in my life. My question/ debate topic thingy is, is asexuality a normal brain function we are born with or do you think it is triggered by experiences regarding people and the like?
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Post by Gafro on Apr 17, 2010 16:05:52 GMT -5
I myself am asexual, or rather am not attracted to anything in the matter of sex or physical attraction, but have been told by numerous people that that is impossible. I personally don't believe them, obviously by my asexuality, but wonder if it is just how I was born or just because of past events in my life. My question/ debate topic thingy is, is asexuality a normal brain function we are born with or do you think it is triggered by experiences regarding people and the like? Both. Born asexuality can be hormonal or simply arbitrary (so genetic or whatever the best working theory for what causes other differences in sexuality is). Acquired asexuality tends to be from either traumatic sexual experiences, most often as a child, or from genuine lack of experience, in certain contexts, in rare cases. Asexuality is rare, though, make no mistake. Maybe you just haven't found your thing yet
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Post by Trey on Apr 17, 2010 17:34:12 GMT -5
I am intrigued by your sexuality, or rather, lack thereof. I'm assuming you've hit puberty? If this becomes a concern for you, I'd recommend seeing a doctor. If you've reached sexual maturity, yet you are turned on by nothing, you could have a hormonal problem. Of course, this is only if you're concerned; By no means am I calling you some sort of freak lulz.
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Post by paradoxasaurus on Apr 17, 2010 17:46:17 GMT -5
I am intrigued by your sexuality, or rather, lack thereof. I'm assuming you've hit puberty? If this becomes a concern for you, I'd recommend seeing a doctor. If you've reached sexual maturity, yet you are turned on by nothing, you could have a hormonal problem. Of course, this is only if you're concerned; By no means am I calling you some sort of freak lulz. Oh, I'm quite offended good sir! jk Haha, yeah, I've hit sexual maturity. XD I'm not really concerned about it or anything, But just moreso curious on what other people think on this matter.
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Post by zAkAtAk on Apr 17, 2010 18:46:18 GMT -5
I thought I was asexual in high school.
It was just a phase for me.
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Post by Jake on Apr 17, 2010 20:29:30 GMT -5
My question/ debate topic thingy is, is asexuality a normal brain function we are born with or do you think it is triggered by experiences regarding people and the like? I assume it just comes in the same way as homosexuality/bisexuality/hetrosexuality is. Although I'm not sure how much of that sexuality comes down to "born with" vs life experiences.
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Post by The Doctor on Apr 18, 2010 15:32:25 GMT -5
I was rather old when I started to get interest in pursuing sexual intrests, so to speak... I still find platonic love much more appealing, but once in a blue moon so to speak, it happens, Sexual drive is something very personal and should never be compared to anyone else but yourself. When I was young, I was worried something was wrong, but it wasnt. Sure, If youre depressed or stressed generally sexual drive tends to drop, same for many medications.
Well, as I said, one should never compare sexual drive to others, because thats a path that hardly leads to anything good!
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Post by brumagem on Apr 18, 2010 16:41:21 GMT -5
I am a biromantic asexual. I don't think it really matters where it comes from, only that it's here to stay. All I know is this kind of thing can't be changed (I've tried), not on purpose anyway.
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Post by RabbitWho on Apr 18, 2010 16:52:27 GMT -5
I've never met an asexual who wasn't either: abused and or terrified of sex very very painfully shy depressed in love with one person who won't have them and thereby convinced they can never love again fed up with dating (like probably Morrisey) addicted to some substance which is affecting their brain
The sexuality is always there, but sometimes you're not feeling it because you're not allowing yourself to feel it or because you are just too sad or afraid or in some way tense. If you are none of those things then you could well just be going through a phase, especially if you're a teenager; it's a horrible time to be alive.
In my opinion asexuality is something people convince themselves of, it doesn't exist except in plants and dolls.
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Post by Lex on Apr 18, 2010 18:30:11 GMT -5
I've never met an asexual who wasn't either: abused and or terrified of sex very very painfully shy depressed in love with one person who won't have them and thereby convinced they can never love again fed up with dating (like probably Morrisey) addicted to some substance which is affecting their brain But then it does exist then? You're painting it as a psychological issue, and then later saying that it doesn't exist.
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Post by Trey on Apr 18, 2010 19:12:03 GMT -5
I've never met an asexual who wasn't either: abused and or terrified of sex very very painfully shy depressed in love with one person who won't have them and thereby convinced they can never love again fed up with dating (like probably Morrisey) addicted to some substance which is affecting their brain But then it does exist then? You're painting it as a psychological issue, and then later saying that it doesn't exist. I also was kind of confused by this logic, lol
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Post by RabbitWho on Apr 19, 2010 7:17:03 GMT -5
I've never met an asexual who wasn't either: abused and or terrified of sex very very painfully shy depressed in love with one person who won't have them and thereby convinced they can never love again fed up with dating (like probably Morrisey) addicted to some substance which is affecting their brain But then it does exist then? You're painting it as a psychological issue, and then later saying that it doesn't exist. So I should have said "I never met someone who claimed to be asexual and wasn't either..." As I said the sexuality is there, buried and repressed. Asexuality would be a natural absence of it and wouldn't require any repression resulting from trauma or tension.
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Post by Lex on Apr 19, 2010 16:39:11 GMT -5
But then it does exist then? You're painting it as a psychological issue, and then later saying that it doesn't exist. So I should have said "I never met someone who claimed to be asexual and wasn't either..." As I said the sexuality is there, buried and repressed. Asexuality would be a natural absence of it and wouldn't require any repression resulting from trauma or tension. But then they are still asexual? Similarly; one can be influenced to become homosexual from a traumatic experience. I expect that this is similar. But aside from abuse, I have no doubt that asexuality exists. To deny it would be like denying homosexuality or bisexuality. If someone says that they have no sexual interest, then you must accept that. There's no need to tell them that they're repressing it - and even then, that's still asexuality.
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Post by FranticProdigy on Apr 19, 2010 22:39:24 GMT -5
I thought I was asexual in high school. It was just a phase for me. It is a phase for a lot of people, it is in many peoples biology to have an attraction to an particular sex, I say many not all.
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Post by RabbitWho on Apr 21, 2010 7:37:37 GMT -5
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ridiculous for me to deny the existence of something without proof.
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Post by GojuRyuKarateWolf on Apr 26, 2010 13:38:21 GMT -5
Asexuality is a normal brain function at some point in our lives (mostly Teenager phase) but previous experiences might be linked as well. Bad experiences like being raped. Sometimes, it is considered a lack of a sexual orientation.
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Post by TheLazyCuddler on Apr 28, 2010 14:57:38 GMT -5
Interesting to say the least. Never heard anything like it before.. don't really know wether it's good or bad, nor will I make any statement. But I can say one thing I am certain of.
An asexual person is the kind of person who is not a pervert in any way possible. ever.
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Post by Trey on Apr 28, 2010 21:26:51 GMT -5
Interesting to say the least. Never heard anything like it before.. don't really know wether it's good or bad, nor will I make any statement. But I can say one thing I am certain of. An asexual person is the kind of person who is not a pervert in any way possible. ever. Do you mean pervert in general, or someone being sexually perverted?
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Post by TheIslander on Apr 28, 2010 22:41:43 GMT -5
The last time someone told me they were asexual it was just because they couldn't get with a girl. The topic of asexuality is vague, as far as I know there is no definite way of knowing a person is asexual. I always thought asexuality was a hypothetical sexuality which was induced by scientists.
Sexuality is a psychological thing, and due to (our) lack of knowledge in such a field it is hard to determine such things. The only sexualities which we can know for sure that exist are the ones which occur at high rates (Heterosexual, Homosexual, Bisexual). With the same reasoning, one can say that homosexuals do not exist, or bisexuals do not exist. But since it is such a psychological thing which we still don't know much about: why debate it?
Also if asexuality does exist: Why debate it? It is just like debating someone is straight or gay. Let it be.
Personally, I think no asexual is an admitted asexual. Asexual people may in fact be married, separated or divorced and pass as straight. It is as hard to realize you are asexual, as it is to realize another person is therefore paradoxically: you as such, cannot determine your sexuality - you can only guess.
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Post by Trey on Apr 28, 2010 22:59:02 GMT -5
Sexuality is a psychological thing, and due to (our) lack of knowledge in such a field it is hard to determine such things. The only sexualities which we can know for sure that exist are the ones which occur at high rates (Heterosexual, Homosexual, Bisexual). With the same reasoning, one can say that homosexuals do not exist, or bisexuals do not exist. But since it is such a psychological thing which we still don't know much about: why debate it? Well, there is such thing as the gay gene
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