Camoon
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Post by Camoon on Apr 19, 2010 18:32:09 GMT -5
So I was explaining to friends the other day, that I 'fell in love' with a girl I met on holiday. I told them how on the second day of meeting her, I made out with her. I hung out with her throughout the holiday, and she was the most awesome girl I had ever met.
So my friend was angry at me for being a 'typical boy.' For making out with a girl on the second day of meeting her.
I just want to know your guys feelings on this? I personally see nothing wrong with it. I was on holiday. I was having fun. And I was happy. And so was she.
My personal view is, as long as you're happy, and not making other people unhappy, there should be no limit to what is right and wrong.
(Sorry this is more of a personal experience based debate, but I needed to get it off my chest.)
Your views?
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Post by ElfLady on Apr 19, 2010 18:37:42 GMT -5
Hmmm... I kind of agree with your views, but I feel like saying "I concur" is inadequate in this situation... yeah, I feel like, if you're both having fun, and it's not something you'll regret later, then you should really just go with the flow, and do what will make you happy. It's not every day you get to do that. It is holiday. And let's face it, life sucks sometimes... a lot of the time... so when there is a non-destructive way to leave that suck behind, go for it. ^_^ I mean, that's not really going against any of my morals. I don't know if anyone has conflicting views. It's not like you slept with her, which would be a bit different.
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Post by Ricky on Apr 19, 2010 18:42:06 GMT -5
I think its perfectly ok. If you guys really liked each other there was nothing wrong with making out with her on the second day you met.
I would just suggest that you get to know each other before going any further though, just so you can see what you have in common, learn about each others lives, and if you are both looking for the same stuff.
Even if you and/or her are not looking for a relationship its better to specify before the potential of someone getting hurt.
but that my opinion. Hope it helps Cam ;D
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Post by Lex on Apr 19, 2010 18:50:38 GMT -5
Well... is she really happy if she's unhappy about you doing it?
I dunno. Don't ask me. I know nothing about this stuff.
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Post by ninjaearl on Apr 19, 2010 19:05:29 GMT -5
Nothing wrong with it as all as long as you're both comfortable
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Post by zAkAtAk on Apr 19, 2010 19:09:01 GMT -5
I've made out first day with all the guys I have dated.
But that's just me.
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Camoon
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Post by Camoon on Apr 19, 2010 19:12:16 GMT -5
Well... is she really happy if she's unhappy about you doing it? I dunno. Don't ask me. I know nothing about this stuff. If she was unhappy, she wouldn't have made out with me. Then proceeded to have 3 bumper kart (you call them dodgems I think) games. Then went on a few fair rides kicking our shoes off at the people below. Aah. Good times. /snapsbacktopresenttime
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Post by rialvestro on Apr 19, 2010 20:39:34 GMT -5
So I was explaining to friends the other day, that I 'fell in love' with a girl I met on holiday. I told them how on the second day of meeting her, I made out with her. I hung out with her throughout the holiday, and she was the most awesome girl I had ever met. So my friend was angry at me for being a 'typical boy.' For making out with a girl on the second day of meeting her. I just want to know your guys feelings on this? I personally see nothing wrong with it. I was on holiday. I was having fun. And I was happy. And so was she. My personal view is, as long as you're happy, and not making other people unhappy, there should be no limit to what is right and wrong. (Sorry this is more of a personal experience based debate, but I needed to get it off my chest.) Your views? Well some of my friends would argue that it's impossible to fall in love with someone you just met. And I don't see any indication in your post that you're continueing to see this girl so I would argue that you were just useing her durring your vaction not that you were in love with her. Now if you are continueing some kind of relationship that OK that's great but to fall in love with someone lasts longer than some holiday vacation. What you described is a fling. There's no love about it, you just hook up with a girl on vaction you'll never see again once you part ways and that is wrong because you're essentially useing her.
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Post by Trey on Apr 19, 2010 20:46:50 GMT -5
As long as the girl isn't tied to a bed/chair while you're making out with her, it should be okay
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Post by Deleted on Apr 20, 2010 4:54:56 GMT -5
As long as the girl isn't tied to a bed/chair while you're making out with her, it should be okay use rohypnol, a lot more efficient
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Post by RabbitWho on Apr 20, 2010 4:58:41 GMT -5
awwwwwwwwwwww No there's nothing wrong with it at all at all.
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Post by rialvestro on Apr 20, 2010 7:07:44 GMT -5
awwwwwwwwwwww No there's nothing wrong with it at all at all. 1. Love the use of that video here. 2. Are you an Insecticon or is that just a typo typo?
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Post by chelseeyuh on Apr 20, 2010 16:47:27 GMT -5
Not really the point, but I would say that you aren't in love with a girl you just met /typical cynical Chelsea
But I would also so that you're not being a "typical boy" if you genuinely like this girl and aren't trying to use her.. If you're not going to see her again, and your mindset is "I'm on holiday. I'll do what I want and forget about it once I go back to normal life" then, yeah, that's messed up.. But it doesn't seem like that's the case...
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Post by bathanie on Apr 20, 2010 16:54:16 GMT -5
I had to think about whether I knew you or not, because just 3 weeks ago I made out with a boy I got to know from therapy, and that was on the second day since I met him. I honestly don't think there's anything wrong. If both people want to make out, I say they should, there's nothing "wrong", unless one of you are pressuring the other or the like. Otherwise, it's up to both your morals.
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Camoon
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Post by Camoon on Apr 20, 2010 17:58:38 GMT -5
I had to think about whether I knew you or not, because just 3 weeks ago I made out with a boy I got to know from therapy, and that was on the second day since I met him. I honestly don't think there's anything wrong. If both people want to make out, I say they should, there's nothing "wrong", unless one of you are pressuring the other or the like. Otherwise, it's up to both your morals. No-one was pressuring anyone at all. We'd hung out for ages, and been like... joint at the hip. Then we got drunk, went on fair rides, and made out. It was kinda romantic. We were both happy and having fun. I mean it was a holiday. We still hung out like normal after, in fact we were probably closer. The next day we teamed up in a waterfight and owned people with our teamwork. Then I had to come home. And the person who said I was essentially using her if I didn't love her: I think love is irrelevant. To be honest, I wanted more than holiday romance. She wanted someone to be with while she was on holiday (I'm guessing) and I was a fool for falling in 'love' or whatever you think I was, with her. But we both had fun, and I don't regret it, and according to her (I speak to her on msn a bit) neither does she. Also, I would NEVER make out with someone if I wasn't certain it was what they wanted. But in this situation, it was kinda... her moving in on me that hinted she wanted to make out with me. xD Anyway, the story now, is that I'm more interested in her than she is me. I would move to where she lived if she felt the same. But she doesn't. I was just a fling to her. Bear in mind guys this was 2 years ago. A year after that, we saw each other again at the same place (it's a yearly convention thing) but nothing happened. We just hung out. She seemed interested in someone else. (That's some more background information to help you decide)
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Post by bathanie on Apr 20, 2010 18:25:39 GMT -5
Okay, I understand now.(: I still stand by what I originally said, there's nothing wrong with it at all, if your story is true. n_n
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Post by RamblinReed on Apr 20, 2010 20:05:10 GMT -5
I don't know...I personally, wouldn't rush into anything like that, and I don't really like the whole "just for the holiday" kinda thing, but that's just how I was raised. If you're single, and you find someone who just wants a quick thrill like you for a holiday, I guess I see no problem, though I morally disagree.
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Post by Danielle on Apr 20, 2010 20:34:45 GMT -5
WHAT!? I THOUGHT YOU LIKED MEEE!
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Post by Insane_Zang on Apr 20, 2010 21:28:55 GMT -5
3 bumper kart (you call them dodgems I think) I'm just going to point out that, no, we don't >.<
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Post by rialvestro on Apr 21, 2010 0:43:39 GMT -5
And the person who said I was essentially using her if I didn't love her: I think love is irrelevant. To be honest, I wanted more than holiday romance. She wanted someone to be with while she was on holiday (I'm guessing) and I was a fool for falling in 'love' or whatever you think I was, with her. But we both had fun, and I don't regret it, and according to her (I speak to her on msn a bit) neither does she. Also, I would NEVER make out with someone if I wasn't certain it was what they wanted. But in this situation, it was kinda... her moving in on me that hinted she wanted to make out with me. xD Anyway, the story now, is that I'm more interested in her than she is me. I would move to where she lived if she felt the same. But she doesn't. I was just a fling to her. Bear in mind guys this was 2 years ago. A year after that, we saw each other again at the same place (it's a yearly convention thing) but nothing happened. We just hung out. She seemed interested in someone else. Um, no one said you were useing her if you weren't really in love. I said you were useing her if you had no intention of seeing her again after the holiday was over. But it sounds now like she was useing you rather than the other way around and that's still wrong. BTW Personally I don't know if love at first sight is a real thing but I find alot of people think that only happens in movies. Maybe you were in love with her and that seems to be the case to me if you're still thinking about her that way after 2 years. Just personally from my exsperiance. Any girl I've ever had a crush on, after a few months I just forget about them and move on to a new crush. However there was this one girl who is different from the others, she hasn't spoken to me in 3 years but I still think about her every day. It's illogical to love someone who hurt me like she did but I do.
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