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Post by _nderscore on Aug 9, 2010 23:40:04 GMT -5
Go ahead. I'm willing to listen to what you have to say. Well, first off, what we're talking about here is not necessarily intercourse, it's more of someone performing certain sexual acts upon you, and you would do the same. You would do something like that, and also keep a friendly relationship with that person. Now I agree, sex before marriage is sort of morally questionable, but it's also not the worst thing in the world. It's not like your killing a person, but again, we're not talking intercourse. So is it just two people masturbating together? Isn't that somewhat homosexual?
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Post by Lex on Aug 10, 2010 0:37:21 GMT -5
Well, first off, what we're talking about here is not necessarily intercourse, it's more of someone performing certain sexual acts upon you, and you would do the same. You would do something like that, and also keep a friendly relationship with that person. Now I agree, sex before marriage is sort of morally questionable, but it's also not the worst thing in the world. It's not like your killing a person, but again, we're not talking intercourse. So is it just two people masturbating together? Isn't that somewhat homosexual? Man and woman masturbate together... how is that homosexual? Mutual masturbation can be both homosexual and heterosexual. It depends on the partners involved.
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Post by rialvestro on Aug 10, 2010 1:20:46 GMT -5
There's already a topic for this. I know because I started it. My girlfriend has an easy time with the whole friends with benefits thing, in fact, it was her idea to try it when we weren't dating. It didn't go so well for me though, we kissed and I had a mental break down.
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Post by Enemynarwhal on Aug 15, 2010 15:11:52 GMT -5
Actually it's ussually the other way around. Now if it's just a booty call the dude probably won't fall in love but if you're both friend the guy is way more likely to fall for a female friend than a chick is to fall more a male friend. Add sex and the dude will totally fall in love.
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Post by Xīn Chūn on Aug 22, 2010 20:18:02 GMT -5
I don't have a personal opinion on the matter, since I've never reall had any kind of sex, but I believe that as long as there's mutual consent then it's fine for those who want to. And those who do not want to have "sex buddies" should just not have them, and they should pay no mind to those who do.
The only thing I can really say is that when it comes to mutual consent, both/all parties should know exactly what they're getting into, how far things will go, and they should also know each other well, and have trust in each other.
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Post by austkyzor on Aug 29, 2010 22:26:15 GMT -5
Really, it all depends on how you view sex - is it a sign of deep love? Or is it a natural progession of attraction? Does sex have to be romantic? Is sex purely for procreation?
I'ma use personal experience here - I regret my first time. It was with somebody I bairly knew, who viewed sex as an act purely for fun. It's the only regret I have, and I've used the experience to make sure I never make the same mistake again. Since I've only ever been with people I've built friendships with first. Personally, I feel that friendship should come first.
This may be the only time I ever agree with a Spice Girls song.
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Post by newschooled on Aug 30, 2010 0:31:56 GMT -5
It's a completely subjective topic. It depends entirely on the individual and their values. There is no single correct answer, no matter how high you think the moral ground you stand on is.
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Post by mollymoosesays on Aug 30, 2010 13:28:46 GMT -5
I'd say they aren't half bad.
I've had better relationships like this with woman rather than men. Probably because I really do enjoy the relationship side of these sorts of relationships. I like hanging out outside the bedroom and I like conversations that don't solely revolve around when I will be naked again.
At anyrate, I can see how some people wouldn't like them. But they work for me. :]
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Post by ihateyouokkkkkkk on Aug 30, 2010 18:16:50 GMT -5
Sex is good, buddies are good. I say why not? his kid would never get laid, lol!!
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Post by cooltiger413 on Aug 30, 2010 19:27:10 GMT -5
It simply depends on the persons values and there view of what sex is. I'm neutral on the topic. Also, mindoutrage, please stop posting your thread titles in all capitols. Its not necessary and pretty annoying.
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Post by Skwiggs on Aug 31, 2010 1:07:26 GMT -5
Sex buddies... Good. I have had a few in college. They usually end up going well for me... I think the best part is, you're not expected to put up a front, and constantly go on dates, or go out of your way. You're just friends, so you can be more real! Oh, but if you are going to do it, BE SAFE and USE A CONDOM Papa always said "never buy a car before you test drive it" KIDDING KIDDING KIDDING [/quip] i think you should still choose carefully, even a sex buddy. The Great feeling of being real with all pretenses down does tend to pull you into Real feelings. It puts ya in one of those "brain says no but body says yes" situations so Good for getting to know yourself And Good for getting to know the other better IF you ACTUALLY might want to be more. Very bad if you not comfortable with your life as it is (very easy to get dependent) I saw this quote somewhere and think it fits here "It's your life, enjoy it smart, enjoy it loud, just enjoy it, enjoy it Now!"
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Post by mollymoosesays on Aug 31, 2010 18:21:45 GMT -5
For boys (or girls) with sex buddies, be nice. If you're going to make a booty call, at least call. Do not send a text.
Speaking from personal experience. Booty texts are not cool.
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Post by austkyzor on Aug 31, 2010 19:35:14 GMT -5
I'd rather get a booty text then, say, my sex buddy suddenly barging into my room and demanding sex immediately. Which has happened to me more then once.
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Post by mollymoosesays on Aug 31, 2010 19:52:01 GMT -5
Demanding is also not cool. I just feel like there is something hella rude about just sending a text. It makes me think of him sitting on his sofa watching porn and thinking "Oh, I'll just pop Mols a quick text to see if she'll come get me off..."
Welp, this accidentally turned into my bitching about my own problem. My bad.
Back to the discussion. I still think they're good.
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Post by Captain Giggle Squash on Jan 4, 2011 10:48:52 GMT -5
I'ma use personal experience here - I regret my first time. It was with somebody I bairly knew, who viewed sex as an act purely for fun. It's the only regret I have, and I've used the experience to make sure I never make the same mistake again. Since I've only ever been with people I've built friendships with first. Personally, I feel that friendship should come first.I made a similar mistake, where you were with someone you barely knew, I was with someone I cared for, but it ended up that when school started she dumped me for someone she started liking DURING the relationship. It caused me to be emotionally unstable for a few days, I constantly switched between "it's over never again" and "It's my fault I need to try and fix this." I was talking to my friend about this and almost broke down crying in the middle of a Distance Learning class. Then I finally decided that it's over, she doesn't deserve me. I terminated all emotional ties and relationships with her. Which I really should go back to because she really pisses me off now...
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Post by Raydawn on Jan 4, 2011 12:46:44 GMT -5
run! its a necromancer!
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Post by austkyzor on Jan 4, 2011 13:44:33 GMT -5
Oh dear, that was supposed to be my thing.
Regardless - it's okay, because it still has merit as a discussion.
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Post by Flappy on Jan 5, 2011 17:44:05 GMT -5
Oh, but if you are going to do it, BE SAFE and USE A CONDOM Quoted for truth! I don't have a problem with it I suppose. But since guys are typically more horny than girls, it seems like the guy would be seeking "sex-only" relationship whilst the girl would have trouble keeping those sort of feelings. Not true. Anyway, my view on it is it's cool. Like others have said, there's no stress of a relationship (dates, emotions, etc.) It's a friendship and it should be treated as such. I don't currently have any, nor have I in the past. Not because I don't want to, but because I just don't have this type of friend at the moment. I also do stress being safe. Nowadays getting an STD is really easy, so...virgins are your best bet. Lol...
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Post by rndnproductions on Jan 19, 2011 18:46:06 GMT -5
it can be good. i read an artical saying that 30% of all men who ever comitted rape did it becuse they havent had sex in a long time. this could keep them from doing it. and for the girl it can have negitive side effects and long term effects, but not vary offten. most of the time they are good with it, ifact most of the time it is there idea, the guys just go with it.
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Post by 0netnet0 on Jan 22, 2011 16:45:23 GMT -5
but could a girl actually handle it? I mean my thought is if you masturbating all ready then wouldnt it be better if you had someone do it for you? i think yes. do you? DISCUSS Well obviously it's way more exciting to have a partner. I think that sex buddies are ok, as long as both people know the consequences and the reality of things. One thing that bothered me in your post was "could a girl handle it?" Let me tell you, I know many cases where it would have been the guy not handling it and breaking down.
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