us declining marriage

[rialvestro]

news.yahoo.com/s/ap/us_declining_marriage

Discuss.

[stephen5000]

All the young couples I know have no intent to get married. Also a friend of mine told me that one of the worst things you can do for a relationship is to live together. As far as I can tell, marriage was a fad and it's going away.

[amon91]

I have nothing against marriage. If that's what you want to do, then do it, maybe I will do it once I grow older. I think the difference is these days people don't have all that social pressure to get married and form a traditional family.

[IAMNTHOMAS]

I definitely agree with this article. Why would someone want to get married? Married life sucks. (From what I hear) Sure there are always couples that have great relationships, but even in the best of relationships there is going to be some sort of struggle that could put strain on the couple's relationship. Not to mention its human nature to want to reproduce offspring throughout ones life and people are always going to be tempted to hook up with other people while they are in relationships.

I think people are finally realizing that there is a lot of risk in marriage. I don't think people want to risk losing their assets when they get taken to divorce court so they will just not get married in the first place. Surely there are a lot of positives to getting married - (like shared health insurance) - and you can have a traditional family but obviously I don't think people see the benefits outweighing the positives. Look at the stats - divorce rate in the US for the first marriage is 41%, for the second marriage 60% and for the third marriage 73%. I ask myself - why do people get married again if they got divorced the first 2 times around? The social pressure is definitely still there IMO but its getting less has harsh as time goes on. People probably just want to feel loved and feel like they are accepted by society for being "successful" and being married.

It is much easier to be in long term relationships and not putting much risk out on the table. Statistically you are bound to get a divorce anyway. Not only does the marriage ceremony cost money - the divorce costs a lot of money as well.

There's a lot more to this but personally, as I see myself now, I see no reason in getting married.

[rialvestro]

Personally the way I see it is that even people who initially say that they don't want to get married end up doing it anyway.

Marriage itself is really just a promise to love and care for someone for as long as you both live which for some reason people are finding this hard to comprehend. In arranged marriage it has nothing to do with love as the couple normally never even meet till the wedding day. In modern society I think people forget about the "care for each other" part.

Yeah, couples are bound to fight every so often, no relationship is perfect but some fights seem rather childish to have a divorce over. I mean people some times get divorced over something as stupid as where they live, this house is too small, we need a bigger place, we can't afford a bigger place so we have to make due, will if we can't afford it I'll find someone else who can.

Or the even more common, "Am I not attractive anymore" as people grow older. If you really love and care for someone you'll still love and care for them just as much when you're 90 as you did when you were 20. Something as superficial as appearance really shouldn't matter that much.

Now something where your spouse is abusing you or holding you against your will, keeping you from seeing friends and family, that's a relationship that you should get out of. Stupid little things shouldn't break up a relationship but often do anyway.

I think marriage is over rated or often fails because most people don't even understand what it means to be married and rush into it before they're ready.

[ryan]

marrage going away?wtf