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Post by dylansumner on Dec 4, 2010 16:31:27 GMT -5
Do you think there should be a set amount of time before you can tell someone you love them.
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Post by Lex on Dec 4, 2010 17:32:45 GMT -5
No offense, but I'm having a very difficult time deciphering your post.
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Post by dylansumner on Dec 4, 2010 18:02:04 GMT -5
No offense, but I'm having a very difficult time deciphering your post. After re-reading it after you posted this. I just seen that it doesn't make any sense to me and I wrote it. Edit - I fixed it, so that people can read it without getting confused. |
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Post by TsukikoSuoh on Dec 6, 2010 7:25:24 GMT -5
I think that maybe a day or two would be too soon to say 'I love you' to someone- though many people do it anyways. It all depends on the strength of the relationship and on the people involved, as well. For example: my boyfriend and I had known each other for a while before actually dating, and it was about two weeks into dating that he told me he loved me, and I returned in kind. For us, it was that long, but for a few of my friends it was anywhere between weeks and months before anyone said that. It's all a matter of personal choice.  |
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Post by Freddy on Dec 6, 2010 10:42:58 GMT -5
It's when both the people feel comfortable with saying that. A lot of people don't understand the meaning of the word. It has been tossed to me a few times and those girls weren't even my girlfriends. They were just friends of mine and I just got a letter saying she loved me. WTFBBQ  |
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Post by austkyzor on Dec 6, 2010 10:57:16 GMT -5
^that
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Post by Lex on Dec 6, 2010 12:41:40 GMT -5
I tell my friends that I love them.
Maybe I'm just weird.
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Post by austkyzor on Dec 6, 2010 12:46:55 GMT -5
That's the other thing - are we talking platonic or relationship wise here?
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Post by dylansumner on Dec 6, 2010 16:44:24 GMT -5
That's the other thing - are we talking platonic or relationship wise here? I was thinking relationship wise, but if you want to add the platonic time as well then go for it. I tell some of my friends I love them, but we have know each other for long, long, long amounts of time probably around 6-7 years. Now that we added platonic to the question, how long would you wait before you told a friend you loved them? |
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Post by Freddy on Dec 6, 2010 17:12:11 GMT -5
I love my friends, but that's another kind of love. You love your family, and that's yet another kind of love.
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Post by dylansumner on Dec 7, 2010 0:21:55 GMT -5
I love my friends, but that's another kind of love. You love your family, and that's yet another kind of love. True, but I really wasn't thinking about the family when I said platonic, I was thinking of more friends. Of course you are going to love your family it's the only one you get. |
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Post by austkyzor on Dec 7, 2010 1:29:40 GMT -5
Since I'm very slow to trust people I know personally - it takes a long time before I show any affection of any sort - I'm probably the wrong person to ask.
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Post by loopiez on Dec 7, 2010 9:50:34 GMT -5
I've personally never said it to anyone, but I have spoken to some friends about it (late nights make people sentimental) and generally the right time is when you feel you absolutely trust that person and that person makes you happy. That feeling generally takes at least a few months of seeing each other, but it really differs. I don't believe in love at first sight, but I do believe in mutual attraction at first sight, which can lead to love very quickly if nothing goes wrong. Also, while the love might be there and both parties know it, it really depends on the confidence one has in saying those three words before actually saying them out loud. So I think there are a multitude of factors which are real game-changers. Telling your significant other that you love them is an important point in the relationship, and while those three words are tossed around by teenagers a lot these days, I don't think there should be a calendar marked saying that you'll tell him/her that you love him/her by this date. If it happens, it happens.
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Post by nicolii on Dec 8, 2010 21:54:32 GMT -5
I think it just really depends on the situation.
For instance, if you are a boy who is dating a girl who you had not been friends with before, it may be too forward to tell the girl that you love her within the first few weeks of dating. It might scare her away.
I do think that the word "love" can be misused... sometimes people think that they "love" the person they are with, but they don't actually know him/her enough to truly have such feelings.
However, I could be wrong...
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Post by dylansumner on Dec 8, 2010 22:32:25 GMT -5
I think it just really depends on the situation. For instance, if you are a boy who is dating a girl who you had not been friends with before, it may be too forward to tell the girl that you love her within the first few weeks of dating. It might scare her away. I do think that the word "love" can be misused... sometimes people think that they "love" the person they are with, but they don't actually know him/her enough to truly have such feelings. However, I could be wrong... I concur with you that the word "love" is misused sometimes. I feel like we might have destroyed the word. But there is no other word that could take it's place when you truly love that person... or is there? |
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Post by marypo on Dec 8, 2010 23:45:44 GMT -5
To answer the original question: No, I do not believe there should be a set amount of time before one can tell another that they love them. However, I believe everyone should consider it their personal responsibility to make sure they are honest when using the word "Love".
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Post by Camoon on Dec 9, 2010 21:29:42 GMT -5
I find it really hard to say "I love you." I can write it and text it easily... but there's this girl at college who I'm best friends with who tells me all the time that she loves me, and each time it catches me off guard and I'm just like "Oh.. yeah.. cool." I just can't say it back. Yet I can text it. Weird. In fact I don't think I've ever said "I love you" to a girl in person without feeling pressured into it.
So yeah, it's personal preference in my opinion.
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Post by brumagem on Dec 10, 2010 21:44:43 GMT -5
Love just isn't quantifiable. There is no standard.
On one hand there's Romeo and Juliet who mutually fall madly in love after only just meeting. On another hand there's Hermione and Ron, who are annoyed with each other for six-some years before they both discover the other is the opposite sex. On a hideously mutated third hand is Westley and Buttercup, where he dedicates his life to her only to be treated like some stupid serf, until she is made jealous by a debaucherous countess.
Just go with the flow. If it feels right, go ahead and say it. If you love them set them free etc. etc.
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Post by dylansumner on Dec 11, 2010 1:12:01 GMT -5
Love just isn't quantifiable. There is no standard. On one hand there's Romeo and Juliet who mutually fall madly in love after only just meeting. On another hand there's Hermione and Ron, who are annoyed with each other for six-some years before they both discover the other is the opposite sex. On a hideously mutated third hand is Westley and Buttercup, where he dedicates his life to her only to be treated like some stupid serf, until she is made jealous by a debaucherous countess. Just go with the flow. If it feels right, go ahead and say it. If you love them set them free etc. etc. Maybe it's just me but I kind of feel like the word love has changed to much. Yeah I'll say it back to a person if they say it me, but I usually don't say it first. I only say it back because it's disrespectful it you don't, at least that's how I feel. I also feel like they know you love them even without saying it to them. They should feel it through what you do for them, how you treat them, and the time you have spent with them. If they can't find out through that then maybe their is something wrong with them. Maybe I've just been listening to rap for too long. Or if could possibly be because so many of my relationships have feel apart because of the word love. |
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Post by Freddy on Dec 11, 2010 1:28:14 GMT -5
relationships have fallen apart because of the word love. Like Leonard and Penny. ;D |
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