Post by RamblinReed on Apr 17, 2010 18:15:12 GMT -5
I expected to join the pogotribe with my spirits high, especially since I was at Disney last week. Turns out I'm joining for advice from a group of people whom, though I've never met or talked to, I trust.
I've been dating my girlfriend for 6 months now. She's a shy girl. The only person she's every really talked to about things openly is her best friend. That said, she's definitely opened up to me the past 6 months. Not as much as I had hoped, though...
Two nights ago, her mother grounded her for bad grades. She's had trouble with grades in the past. Ironically enough, the day she got grounded again was on her best friend's birthday.
Me and her best friend spent that night talking, when she told me something that...changed everything. She was there, apparently, during my girlfriend and her mother's big fight, and she told to me that her mother said she wished that my girlfriend got pregnant, so she wouldn't have to take care of her anymore. My girlfriend and I are 15 years old. It should be obvious to everyone, that it strongly upset me on a number of levels.
So, the past couple of nights, her and I talked about my girlfriend, and how her life isn't as happy-go-lucky as I had thought. I read articles about verbal abuse, and, almost everything is applying.
My girlfriend has what is known as "delayed development" due to her verbal abuse. Slowdown in physical, social, emotional, and academic development. In addition, her nail-biting and other bad habits are a cause.
Now, her mother isn't that bad a person. Other than this which I recently discovered, I really like her mother. Her mother and mine are very close friends, and, from what my mother has told me, she's had a rough childhood, and that is what I think the verbal abuse is coming from.
If anything, I just wanted to vent my story out to a very kind group of people. My mother went through a troubling childhood, and if I told her about this, she'd relate to my girlfriend, and, seeing how her and my girlfriend's mother are close, my mom might be able to talk to her. I've spent a couple nights talking with her best friend about what to do, and we both agreed to maybe get my mother involved. But not right away...First, I need to get my girlfriend to tell me what's been happening without her knowing what her best friend told me.
If you feel like commenting, go ahead. Give me any advice that you all have, through experience or otherwise. Talk about your trials with abuse. In order to be a close tribe, all in the tribe must understand and maybe even relate to other's lives. Understand them on a level far deeper than "another person on the internet."
I've been dating my girlfriend for 6 months now. She's a shy girl. The only person she's every really talked to about things openly is her best friend. That said, she's definitely opened up to me the past 6 months. Not as much as I had hoped, though...
Two nights ago, her mother grounded her for bad grades. She's had trouble with grades in the past. Ironically enough, the day she got grounded again was on her best friend's birthday.
Me and her best friend spent that night talking, when she told me something that...changed everything. She was there, apparently, during my girlfriend and her mother's big fight, and she told to me that her mother said she wished that my girlfriend got pregnant, so she wouldn't have to take care of her anymore. My girlfriend and I are 15 years old. It should be obvious to everyone, that it strongly upset me on a number of levels.
So, the past couple of nights, her and I talked about my girlfriend, and how her life isn't as happy-go-lucky as I had thought. I read articles about verbal abuse, and, almost everything is applying.
My girlfriend has what is known as "delayed development" due to her verbal abuse. Slowdown in physical, social, emotional, and academic development. In addition, her nail-biting and other bad habits are a cause.
Now, her mother isn't that bad a person. Other than this which I recently discovered, I really like her mother. Her mother and mine are very close friends, and, from what my mother has told me, she's had a rough childhood, and that is what I think the verbal abuse is coming from.
If anything, I just wanted to vent my story out to a very kind group of people. My mother went through a troubling childhood, and if I told her about this, she'd relate to my girlfriend, and, seeing how her and my girlfriend's mother are close, my mom might be able to talk to her. I've spent a couple nights talking with her best friend about what to do, and we both agreed to maybe get my mother involved. But not right away...First, I need to get my girlfriend to tell me what's been happening without her knowing what her best friend told me.
If you feel like commenting, go ahead. Give me any advice that you all have, through experience or otherwise. Talk about your trials with abuse. In order to be a close tribe, all in the tribe must understand and maybe even relate to other's lives. Understand them on a level far deeper than "another person on the internet."
