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Post by qooqǝɯɐƃ on Aug 8, 2010 2:49:54 GMT -5
Why the focus on drugs, dating, curfew and that basic stuff? I think this topic is missing out on a whole lot of important parenting topics. But I guess we're saving that for another thread.
So if I had children, I'd be loving and supportive but critical, I'd put them in an environment that teaches them to learn responsibility, accountability, mindful thinking and a bunch of other fundamentals that are so important. I don't believe in punishment or rewards other than advice/criticism and acknowledgment/appreciation. So no, I wouldn't be strict I think it ruins the relationship between the parents and the children, which could ruin like 12+ years of my life.
And as for the people who don't want children, kudos! I think that's what the world needs. 7 billion is way too many, apparently the number should be under 1 billion.
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Post by bombmaniac on Aug 8, 2010 10:53:48 GMT -5
kill yourself. by staying alive you are being selfish.
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Post by Joey on Aug 8, 2010 11:18:34 GMT -5
And as for the people who don't want children, kudos! I think that's what the world needs. 7 billion is way too many, apparently the number should be under 1 billion. No! The world needs 1 billion to share what they have to the other 5 billion.(there are 6 billion people) PEOPLE! HOW THE HELL CAN YOU NOT WANT TO HAVE CHILDREN!!!!!!!!
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Post by Yokailo on Aug 9, 2010 2:21:39 GMT -5
And as for the people who don't want children, kudos! I think that's what the world needs. 7 billion is way too many, apparently the number should be under 1 billion. No! The world needs 1 billion to share what they have to the other 5 billion.(there are 6 billion people) PEOPLE! HOW THE HELL CAN YOU NOT WANT TO HAVE CHILDREN!!!!!!!! Because of reasons already explained. There are way too many people on the earth. I would adopt - I would love to raise a kid, but help others at the same time.. Adopting would be wonderful.
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Post by bombmaniac on Aug 9, 2010 2:49:38 GMT -5
kill yourself. you are selfish for staying alive.
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Post by NormanTheOne on Aug 9, 2010 3:29:34 GMT -5
kill yourself. by staying alive you are being selfish. hence, so are you, and so am I.
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Post by bombmaniac on Aug 9, 2010 4:56:13 GMT -5
then kill us too...i personally don't think there are too many people on this planet therefore it is not selfish for me to stay alive
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Post by Deleted on Aug 9, 2010 5:58:15 GMT -5
Why the focus on drugs, dating, curfew and that basic stuff? I think this topic is missing out on a whole lot of important parenting topics. But I guess we're saving that for another thread. So if I had children, I'd be loving and supportive but critical, I'd put them in an environment that teaches them to learn responsibility, accountability, mindful thinking and a bunch of other fundamentals that are so important. I don't believe in punishment or rewards other than advice/criticism and acknowledgment/appreciation. So no, I wouldn't be strict I think it ruins the relationship between the parents and the children, which could ruin like 12+ years of my life. And as for the people who don't want children, kudos! I think that's what the world needs. 7 billion is way too many, apparently the number should be under 1 billion. I agree completely. And I'm actually going to use myself as an example: My parents rarely were strict with me, and when they imposed a rule, they always explained to me why they did it. Of course when I was a toddler, they were more strict, but my sister and I always had a lot of attention and care from them. We knew we could trust our parents, we knew that what they ordered had a reason to be, and knew what reason that was. My parents don't forbid me from drinking, smoking (cigars or pot), dating, coming late, etc. My mom always said "I don't want you to smoke, because it is an awful thing, but if you decide to smoke, I'd rather have you smoke with me knowing and helping where I can than dangerously without my knowledge". So, currently I don't smoke, don't drink (although I'm in the legal age for drinking), rarely say things like S#!T and am rather responsible. So if I get to be a parent, I'd try to loosen up rules as my kids got to know why would I ever impose them in the first place. For that, I'd create a small time, at night. before bed, when I and my kids would talk about a lot of things, mostly when I teach them stuff and also spend a good funny time. And I would try the most make it seem not like a task but as a good moment in which they want to be in. (this is how my parents did with me ) Of course, this would be if I became a parent, which I will probably not because I'm not sure I'd be able to do it as I say above (even with my sis I'm overprotective xD ) and I don't want to raise them in a way I think is not right (I'm also a bit selfish and don't want to have to raise them ). Of course, as gameboob says above, I'd only adopt. then kill us too...i personally don't think there are too many people on this planet therefore it is not selfish for me to stay alive There is a limit on the amount of resources this planet can give us. Unless you want many people to live in conditions neither I or you would be able to live in (which is already common) I'd rather avoid the continuous growth of human population.
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Post by _nderscore on Aug 9, 2010 7:59:53 GMT -5
I'm happy with the way my parents raised me. Yeah they were strict a little bit, but it's better than having loose parents because then the kids are crazy. Without close parental guidance lots of kids end up doing poorly in school, experimenting with illegal drugs, or having pre-marital sex. All of these just make adulthood so much more complicated.
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Post by jmejia1187 on Aug 9, 2010 14:25:41 GMT -5
I'm happy with the way my parents raised me. Yeah they were strict a little bit, but it's better than having loose parents because then the kids are crazy. Without close parental guidance lots of kids end up doing poorly in school, experimenting with illegal drugs, or having pre-marital sex. All of these just make adulthood so much more complicated. I don't experiment with illegal drugs, but i do have premarital sex... I don't think my adulthood is as complicated as you think. it is very simple. I also did well in school. I got a B.S. in Bio Sci. And my parents were not strict at all! i have a gf that i love. and we are happy, so why is premarital sex in there... and what does this have to do with how strict your parents are? I actually know many girls in college with extremely strict parents, who went crazy having sex with everyone once they found freedom away from home... So I think you are personally spouting a fallacy, which is probably due to ignorance, or lack of experience.
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Post by James McClelland on Aug 9, 2010 17:08:36 GMT -5
I don't like babies. Or toddlers, or little kids. Chances are, I won't have kids.
In the event that I do have kids though, I will try to do whatever my parents failed to do.
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Post by _nderscore on Aug 9, 2010 17:47:10 GMT -5
I'm happy with the way my parents raised me. Yeah they were strict a little bit, but it's better than having loose parents because then the kids are crazy. Without close parental guidance lots of kids end up doing poorly in school, experimenting with illegal drugs, or having pre-marital sex. All of these just make adulthood so much more complicated. I don't experiment with illegal drugs, but i do have premarital sex... I don't think my adulthood is as complicated as you think. it is very simple. I also did well in school. I got a B.S. in Bio Sci. And my parents were not strict at all! i have a gf that i love. and we are happy, so why is premarital sex in there... and what does this have to do with how strict your parents are? I actually know many girls in college with extremely strict parents, who went crazy having sex with everyone once they found freedom away from home... So I think you are personally spouting a fallacy, which is probably due to ignorance, or lack of experience. I have zero business asking what you do with your girlfriend, but as long as you understand the risks, the emotional ties involved with sex, use protection then I really could care less. It's just much easier to not get burned from fire if you don't start a fire to begin with.
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Post by jmejia1187 on Aug 9, 2010 19:57:10 GMT -5
I don't experiment with illegal drugs, but i do have premarital sex... I don't think my adulthood is as complicated as you think. it is very simple. I also did well in school. I got a B.S. in Bio Sci. And my parents were not strict at all! i have a gf that i love. and we are happy, so why is premarital sex in there... and what does this have to do with how strict your parents are? I actually know many girls in college with extremely strict parents, who went crazy having sex with everyone once they found freedom away from home... So I think you are personally spouting a fallacy, which is probably due to ignorance, or lack of experience. I have zero business asking what you do with your girlfriend, but as long as you understand the risks, the emotional ties involved with sex, use protection then I really could care less. It's just much easier to not get burned from fire if you don't start a fire to begin with. Fire? We both are std free, and we she takes birth control... I see no fire here... Oh and I am 23 years old, more than old enough to get married and take care of kids if it does happen. So your post is... well... pointless. Especially since you said you don't care. If you don't care, WHY THE FUCK DID YOU REPLY?
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Post by rialvestro on Aug 10, 2010 1:53:49 GMT -5
I don't really see how over population is an issue. I don't see people piling up on each other in the streets, looks like there's plenty of room for more people.
The problem I see is that there are two kinds of people in this world when there should only be one kind. There are the people who will hurt others they claim to care about to get what they want and there are people who will give up what they want to make others happy.
The selfish people would kill millions to please one. The rest, people like me, would kill one to save millions. What does that mean, kill one to save millions, well think of all the people that died during WW2, they could of all lived if Hitler was killed before his rise to power.
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Post by qooqǝɯɐƃ on Aug 10, 2010 6:15:54 GMT -5
... No! The world needs 1 billion to share what they have to the other 5 billion. (there are 6 billion people) ... www.census.gov/main/www/popclock.html6.86 Billion is a lot closer to 7 billion than 6 billion. I don't really see how over population is an issue. I don't see people piling up on each other in the streets, looks like there's plenty of room for more people. And I guess I wasn't clear enough. I'm not talking about overpopulation. I'm talking about sustainability. There is a certain number of people that the world can sustain indefinitely, and apparently the number is around 1 billion. Anyways, back on topic!
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Post by Joey on Aug 11, 2010 14:38:48 GMT -5
I have zero business asking what you do with your girlfriend, but as long as you understand the risks, the emotional ties involved with sex, use protection then I really could care less. It's just much easier to not get burned from fire if you don't start a fire to begin with. Fire? We both are std free, and we she takes birth control... I see no fire here... Oh and I am 23 years old, more than old enough to get married and take care of kids if it does happen. So your post is... well... pointless. Especially since you said you don't care. If you don't care, WHY THE FUCK DID YOU REPLY? 1. off topic, but would you want to marry her(like, do you want to, has it crossed your mind?) Now. 2. I AM IN SO FREAKING AMAZEMENT ON HOW MOST OF YOU DONT WANT KIDS GOD DAMMIT!!!!!!! I AM MAKING A DISCUSSION ON THIS ITS INSANE!!!!!!!
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Post by ducttapepogouser on Aug 12, 2010 12:53:25 GMT -5
Going to town 11-12 (with friends) sleeping in on the weekends is ok as long as its not past 1 smoking and drugs never! drinking 21 (legal age) PG 13 movies 10 -12 R movies 13-14 curfew 9pm for 10-12 10pm for 13-16 11pm 17-18
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Post by Crubex on Aug 12, 2010 22:21:43 GMT -5
Well, Seeing as I am scared of giving any child of mine, my Epilepsy, Im not sure if Ill actually have a kid. But, If I do, Ill be around them or have them around me till around 10, Or I see them taking responsibility for actions and slight maturity. After that Ill give them a bit more space, let them find who they are, but at the same time stay close with them, Know what I mean? Just be a good Father, As I never had a father myself.
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Post by rialvestro on Aug 12, 2010 23:48:50 GMT -5
Oh here's my feelings about ratings on Movies or TV shows. They're pointless!
Now horror movies are sure to give young kids nightmares but they can't actually be hurt by a movie and when they get older they're realize how stupid it was to be afraid of a movie in the first place.
With some kids if you tell them they can't watch certain movies that only makes them want to watch it more. On the other hand the exact age when a child is actually able to watch a horror movie is going to be different for every person and you won't really figure that out unless you try to let them watch it. If they're too scared they'll make the choice on their own not to watch.
I use to hide in my room by my own choice when my parents were watching Nightmare on Elm St. They never even had to tell me that I couldn't watch it. The first movie I did manage to watch was the one set in real life with all the actors playing themselves. Though I think when I first started watching it I thought it was an episode of "Movie Magic".
Being that I'm an actor who has spent most of my life learning how movies are made I probably learned not to be afraid of horror movies earlier than most kids. Ironically it was a horror movie that showed me how the effects in horror movies are done.
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Post by frazzledog on Aug 13, 2010 5:04:39 GMT -5
I probably wont be too strict, but honestly, this thread is kinda pointless... No one knows what they'll be like with their kids until they have them. And a couple of people have posted along the lines of that.
However, smoking will be an absolute no no, as several of our family members have died due to smoking, and I'll probably die because of second hand smoke (so long as skin cancer doesn't get me first). drinking will be allowed so long as me or their father knows about it, and they aren't driving anywhere. Bed times will be debatable; obviously the younger they are, the more sleep they will need.
when it comes to books and movies, so long as I've read/seen it first, I don't see a problem in letting them read or watch an "older" book or movie. I'll take Harry Potter for example. I'd let my 7 year old read the first three books, but before they started on the last four, I'd talk about death, and how its a necessary part of life, so that they don't have bad nightmares about Voldemort coming to get them
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