Post by ahrimar on Aug 26, 2010 3:15:33 GMT -5
So here is a story, a long one if you have the patience to read it, and interesting one, as I might say, that I need your opinion on....
I have been, doing alot of thinking and soul searching, and trying to figure out how I can be me. Or a better me, or to get back the way I am.
I have come to 3 things. My vices. The things that take riority over anything in my life and here they are.
1. Nicotine.
2. Alcohol.
3. Women.
Now, let me tell you a story of why I think those things are important.
Back when I was 17. Still in high school, still a virgin. Never drank, hadnt smoked in 5 years, I got a job. And the job was good. I ended up owning a 1989 Dodge Daytona ES Turbo with a 3 speed automatic drag transmission that had 120 PSI of boost. Very fast car. And also, a 1984 Mazda RX-7 that I built up to beat Corvettes and Mustangs and almost anything in a quarter mile. There came in the first girl I ever dated. For me and her to have a good life together, I joined the Air Force. Well.... That ended shortly. How did it end? I got kicked out of the Air Force, I lost all my cars, and my sweet job that was waiting for me, I started smoking.
After that came a long while of depression and self destruction. But, once I got over that, I got another amazing job. During which, I had my own place. A car that got 38MPG, a truck that could tow anything, and a motorcycle. Then I found a girl. While the first 6 months were happening, i still had my job. I furnished our apartment with amazing furniture, i bought a PS3 when they first came out, a Sony surround system, a very nice Sony HDTV, 2 computers, digital cameras, camcorders, and a few other things.
How did that end? I started drinking. I walked away with clothes. Thats right, only the clothes I had. After that, I spent about a year jumping from friend to friend with a bad job, trying to get my license back (oh yeah, i even lost that in the relationship) trying to figure out what to do. And then my parents offered me a chance to start over.
Move To Texas.
So I did. I moved here. Started a new life. What did i accomplish? A truck, a boat, and a Harley. Also went and got my class A CDL with every endorsement. Then I met another girl.
And it was amazing for a while. But then i sold my boat to help us and her kids. Yeah, she had 3 kids. And then i sold my truck and gave her the money to buy a car. I still had my bike. There was some money left over so i splurged, i bought a Motorola Droid. The only thing i was able to get when I was with her. How did that end? I got kicked out of our apartment to the street, my motorcycle gone, clothes and my Droid.
Ive been smoking more and drinking almost every night. And so far, the crappy job I've got, has managed to pay my rent, phone bill and by the miracle of my stepdad been able to afford me an Endure motorcycle. I cant ride it though because I cant afford tags for it but, I do have it.
Oh and the place I live now, pretty much a stranger took me in to his house, and now, he has grown to be my best friend. Rent is cheap, I dont nearly make anything what i used to (I barely get 900 a month, sucks doesnt it?) and well.... I finally have a computer again. Thank you Aarons.
So. Im thinking. Should I swear off all my vices? Nicotine, Alcohol and Women? To me, it really sounds like a good idea. But I know, cigarettes calm me down, Alcohol helps me sleep, and Women, make me happy?
So, I ask you this, what am I afraid of? What should I do? Other people I can figure out easily. Myself, well thats a mystery to me. And I want to know what to do, I need to know. I cant continue on this self destructive patter that I have been on.
Hell, the only girl Ive found lately that I wouldn't mind being with, is.... Well, really impossible to have.
So tell me tribe. What do you think? Is there a way I can break out of this mess, is there a way for me to sleep every night without drinking, is there a way for me to keep my stress down without smoking and is there really a way, that can keep me as happy as I would be if i was in love with someone?
You know, now that I look at it, it sounds simple. But, here is this.
I was born in europe. In a country where chivalry and being a gentleman are hand in hand. I was born to make a woman happy. I live for that. I spent 14 years in that country. And then, the last 9 have been in the states. I've learned that the majority of guys here are selfish pricks.
And no, I know, there is many of us nice guys, perfect guys out there. Like Dan. Hes awesome. But we get trampled on, and walked on like no other. But me, I am like no one you have ever met. I am the perfect gentleman, the most chivalrous guy, but I know how not to appear too weak.
I have decided to give up smoking and drinking. I know its going to lead to a very difficult few months. But I know I can do it. But what about the women part?
Everyone has a soul mate. I know this. Am I just tired of searching for mine, or does she not exist?
I know, the answer is that she probably is out there somewhere. And I want to scream and shout and cry to the world to show her to me. Because I can pretend to be happy by myself, but I know, deep down, that without her, I am nothing, but the few skills I have.
So tell me tribe, what do you think? What can I do or what should I? I love opinions, I love thoughts. I might come off as a prick, or a snob, or an ass, but I guarantee, I am a person who loves input and criticism.
Please, tell me. I am lost. I really don't have anything to lose anymore, and I don't want to loose myself.
I have been, doing alot of thinking and soul searching, and trying to figure out how I can be me. Or a better me, or to get back the way I am.
I have come to 3 things. My vices. The things that take riority over anything in my life and here they are.
1. Nicotine.
2. Alcohol.
3. Women.
Now, let me tell you a story of why I think those things are important.
Back when I was 17. Still in high school, still a virgin. Never drank, hadnt smoked in 5 years, I got a job. And the job was good. I ended up owning a 1989 Dodge Daytona ES Turbo with a 3 speed automatic drag transmission that had 120 PSI of boost. Very fast car. And also, a 1984 Mazda RX-7 that I built up to beat Corvettes and Mustangs and almost anything in a quarter mile. There came in the first girl I ever dated. For me and her to have a good life together, I joined the Air Force. Well.... That ended shortly. How did it end? I got kicked out of the Air Force, I lost all my cars, and my sweet job that was waiting for me, I started smoking.
After that came a long while of depression and self destruction. But, once I got over that, I got another amazing job. During which, I had my own place. A car that got 38MPG, a truck that could tow anything, and a motorcycle. Then I found a girl. While the first 6 months were happening, i still had my job. I furnished our apartment with amazing furniture, i bought a PS3 when they first came out, a Sony surround system, a very nice Sony HDTV, 2 computers, digital cameras, camcorders, and a few other things.
How did that end? I started drinking. I walked away with clothes. Thats right, only the clothes I had. After that, I spent about a year jumping from friend to friend with a bad job, trying to get my license back (oh yeah, i even lost that in the relationship) trying to figure out what to do. And then my parents offered me a chance to start over.
Move To Texas.
So I did. I moved here. Started a new life. What did i accomplish? A truck, a boat, and a Harley. Also went and got my class A CDL with every endorsement. Then I met another girl.
And it was amazing for a while. But then i sold my boat to help us and her kids. Yeah, she had 3 kids. And then i sold my truck and gave her the money to buy a car. I still had my bike. There was some money left over so i splurged, i bought a Motorola Droid. The only thing i was able to get when I was with her. How did that end? I got kicked out of our apartment to the street, my motorcycle gone, clothes and my Droid.
Ive been smoking more and drinking almost every night. And so far, the crappy job I've got, has managed to pay my rent, phone bill and by the miracle of my stepdad been able to afford me an Endure motorcycle. I cant ride it though because I cant afford tags for it but, I do have it.
Oh and the place I live now, pretty much a stranger took me in to his house, and now, he has grown to be my best friend. Rent is cheap, I dont nearly make anything what i used to (I barely get 900 a month, sucks doesnt it?) and well.... I finally have a computer again. Thank you Aarons.
So. Im thinking. Should I swear off all my vices? Nicotine, Alcohol and Women? To me, it really sounds like a good idea. But I know, cigarettes calm me down, Alcohol helps me sleep, and Women, make me happy?
So, I ask you this, what am I afraid of? What should I do? Other people I can figure out easily. Myself, well thats a mystery to me. And I want to know what to do, I need to know. I cant continue on this self destructive patter that I have been on.
Hell, the only girl Ive found lately that I wouldn't mind being with, is.... Well, really impossible to have.
So tell me tribe. What do you think? Is there a way I can break out of this mess, is there a way for me to sleep every night without drinking, is there a way for me to keep my stress down without smoking and is there really a way, that can keep me as happy as I would be if i was in love with someone?
You know, now that I look at it, it sounds simple. But, here is this.
I was born in europe. In a country where chivalry and being a gentleman are hand in hand. I was born to make a woman happy. I live for that. I spent 14 years in that country. And then, the last 9 have been in the states. I've learned that the majority of guys here are selfish pricks.
And no, I know, there is many of us nice guys, perfect guys out there. Like Dan. Hes awesome. But we get trampled on, and walked on like no other. But me, I am like no one you have ever met. I am the perfect gentleman, the most chivalrous guy, but I know how not to appear too weak.
I have decided to give up smoking and drinking. I know its going to lead to a very difficult few months. But I know I can do it. But what about the women part?
Everyone has a soul mate. I know this. Am I just tired of searching for mine, or does she not exist?
I know, the answer is that she probably is out there somewhere. And I want to scream and shout and cry to the world to show her to me. Because I can pretend to be happy by myself, but I know, deep down, that without her, I am nothing, but the few skills I have.
So tell me tribe, what do you think? What can I do or what should I? I love opinions, I love thoughts. I might come off as a prick, or a snob, or an ass, but I guarantee, I am a person who loves input and criticism.
Please, tell me. I am lost. I really don't have anything to lose anymore, and I don't want to loose myself.