That one girl...

[Rogers91]

so uhh yeah as many people have done I will be asking for advice on something along the lines of relationships.

Three years, that is the amount of time I have been working with this girl. I am sad to say that I have been my normal cold and distant self around her for most of this time. You see her brother used to work there as well and had many conversations along the lines of "stay the hell away from my sister". Now he is a marine and uhh yeah I still dont know if it would be cool to even hang out with his sister even if it was just as friends. However she has been flirting with me, then again i am fairly sure she flirts with everyone. Also why would she be interested in me well besides the amazing charm and wit. I seem to be overthinking this way to much. uhhh... yeah i cant remember what the purpose of this was but uhh yeah I really dont know what I should do other than what I usualy do which is smile and wave and uhh look awkward... ohh well

[Breepop]

This sounds like the plot of a movie.


SO! If this is a movie, hit that.


If this is reality, because of what her brother told you, it might not be the best idea to be anything but friends with her unless she shows a very clear interest first (mild flirting, especially if you suspect the person generally flirts with everyone, is not a clear interest ;P).

Was her brother telling you to stay away from her a specific thing that he would have only directed at you, or is this something he says to all guys? 'Cause yeah, if he has a specific reason, you might just stay away from her altogether. xD But if he was just saying it because she's his sister, then there's no harm in being friends with her. GOPHER IT.


I notice you didn't really say anything about being incredibly attracted to her or that this is a major crush. So I assume you'd be just a happy being friends with her. That's what I based my answers on.

[Rogers91]

It does seem kind of like an unfinished plot to a movie. Damn i should pitch movie ideas for a living...

Sorry I have always had a difficulty with showing emotions. I don't really know if it is a crush or what have you but I can say this. I like her, I like to be around her, and I smile every time I am around her even if I really dont want to smile.
I could easily settle with just being friends I have done this many times.
About the brother part. He is the kind of guy that jokes around and then acts serious when you least expect it. I really just dont know.
Ohh well thank you bree for some of your wisdome...

[Rogers91]

Double Posts and an Update...

Okay so uhh yeah... I have alot of thoughts flying through my head so uhh lets begin...

first off the girl I like at work talked to me as she normaly would and at one point said something i cant remember but the approprate answer would have been a complement but instead i was all like maybe and played the middle ground and she got all flustured and walked away and then at the end of my shift she ran up and hugged me which was deffinatly unexpected and also at some point she said "when are we hanging out" which I litteraly didnt know how to respond to and ended up smirking and going back to work. (her brother used to say the same thing to me before he went into the military) also she just texted me half an hour ago and it wasnt much more than "i hope i am not wakeing you up"... i am confused and need help..

I actualy dont know how to ask a girl out or for that matter ask someone if they want to hang out... my few friends have always been as awkward as me and would be the ones that ended up finding the same corner as me to stay out of the main crowd... so uhh yeah how should i procced or better yet am i just trying to find a reason to think she likes me..

also i really dont think i am anywhere near her league. she is like really attractive and i am well uhh yeah not as much...

ohh well hopefully that makes sence or something cause i am really stressed out about the fact that i dont know how to respond and i usualy live my life knowing what i am doing this tlo me is uncommon..

also i am content with slowly moveing forward and eventualy moveing into my own place and if i become wealthy enough to travel i would do that to but she is more of the kind of person that wants to get out of dodge as soon as she can and i am worried that a relationship if any ever formed would be doomed or one of us would have to be misserable or...

agh i keep over thinking everything...

[Kevak]

GO FOR IT! All you need is a little bravery.

As far as I see, she might like you. You never know for sure till you try.
Besides, what is there to lose?

[Rogers91]

nothing to lose i guess but it could easily make work more awkward...

[Rob]

You could try inviting her to a gathering of friends from work and see where it goes.

Safer with numbers. =)

[Benyamin]

I like that Idea^^
I support
GOPHER IT

[Cortney]

Next time you see her at work, whip out your penis and start slapping her with it. That typically works for me.

But srsly, what Rob said is good. It honestly sounds like she likes you and is trying to tell you with silly-girl-methods. You should ask her to hang out. Either:

a) She'll think you're asking her out and will be thrilled (if she likes you) or
b) You can pull it off as an obvious response to what she said to you about "When are we hanging out!?" or whatever.

So yeah, whenever you have a chance to talk to her just say, "Hey, are you busy tonight / *insert day of week here*?"

G'luck.

[Rogers91]

thanks everyone. this supporting odd funny thing you all do is why i keep coming back for more. maybe i will actually have the balls to talk to here in an intelligent fashion today.

Nov 8, 2010 22:53:45 GMT -5 Cortney said:

Next time you see her at work, whip out your penis and start slapping her with it. That typically works for me.

i am pretty sure that would get me fired. just saying...

[Jackson]

Nov 8, 2010 22:53:45 GMT -5 Cortney said:

Next time you see her at work, whip out your penis and start slapping her with it. That typically works for me.

I lol'd. Hard. No pun intended.