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Post by isobelsteaparty on Mar 28, 2010 11:15:39 GMT -5
Where I live there is a bit of unspoken pressure going on, other people talk in friend groups about their relationships and seem to expect others to be experiencing the same as them. It's not real peer pressure I think they don't know they're doing it, but it makes the people who made different decisions feel like they are not normal or missing out on something important.
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Post by zAkAtAk on Mar 29, 2010 10:43:31 GMT -5
I find it weird that about 80% of the people vote saying that they were not or currently are not pressured to have sex. In today's society I think that statistic is a bit off...
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Post by AGaW on Mar 29, 2010 11:00:43 GMT -5
I find it weird that about 80% of the people vote saying that they were not or currently are not pressured to have sex. In today's society I think that statistic is a bit off... Perhaps you have the wrong idea about society when it comes to this? That, or maybe the majority of us just happened to not be pressured.  I was not pressured into losing my virginity. It was totally my decision. A girl asked me if she wanted to do it, I liked that girl for a while, so being a guy, I said sure. Now, I have a girlfriend, and we've been together for almost two years (in 3 days xD). In the beginning of our relationship, she told me that she was going to save herself for marriage. I was like, sure. I liked her a lot, I didn't want her for sex, so it wasn't that big of a deal. 6 months later, she tells me when wants to give herself to me. I'm like, WAT. I totally didn't pressure her. So being a guy, I said sure. She loves me, and I love her, and we'll definitely be together for a looong time. No regrets, just good decision making! I'm not sure if that related to this thread, but oh well... |
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Post by click3tyclick on Mar 29, 2010 11:06:32 GMT -5
I find it weird that about 80% of the people vote saying that they were not or currently are not pressured to have sex. In today's society I think that statistic is a bit off... I find it weird that two people said they had been sexually abused. |
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Post by zAkAtAk on Mar 29, 2010 12:47:27 GMT -5
I find it weird that about 80% of the people vote saying that they were not or currently are not pressured to have sex. In today's society I think that statistic is a bit off... I find it weird that two people said they had been sexually abused. Why's that? It happens a lot more common than you think. Most people that are sexually abused don't report it. |
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Post by chelseeyuh on Mar 29, 2010 16:18:53 GMT -5
I find it weird that about 80% of the people vote saying that they were not or currently are not pressured to have sex. In today's society I think that statistic is a bit off... I voted that I'm not pressured, but then said that there is pressure.... I think the pressure is more societal than specifically on the individual, so people don't feel that they are pressured in particular, but there is still pressure. |
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Post by Dimstow on Mar 29, 2010 16:37:09 GMT -5
My best friend and I we're on this topic yesterday and he said something that pretty much summed it the 'pressure' aspect of it for me
"I don't think I was any more pressured into having sex than I was pressured into watching 'The Dark Knight' and if you feel just as obligated to drop you pants as you do to check out Christian Bale punching a guy wearing make-up, then you should reconsider your priorities"
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Post by chelseeyuh on Mar 29, 2010 17:38:32 GMT -5
My best friend and I we're on this topic yesterday and he said something that pretty much summed it the 'pressure' aspect of it for me "I don't think I was any more pressured into having sex than I was pressured into watching 'The Dark Knight' and if you feel just as obligated to drop you pants as you do to check out Christian Bale punching a guy wearing make-up, then you should reconsider your priorities" Lol! That is pretty true... But then again, sex is a sort of rite of passage, whereas watching a movie isn't. For the most part, everyone will eventually have sex, it's just a matter of when.. and some people just don't know when they should. The other day 2 girls in my class were talking about some boy and one said that the other should take the boy to prom, and she said she wouldn't, so the first girl said, "You should at least have sex with him; he might be a virgin," like virgins should be pitied and it's a common courtesy to help them lose their virginity.. I don't know what that story has to do with anything, but I just thought I would share... |
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Post by blueboop on Apr 1, 2010 7:56:02 GMT -5
I am not a virgin but I wasn't pressured into having sex. It was purely my decision and was between myself and my boyfriend, we were together for two years and had been friends since primary school. We pretty much spent the whole summer together hanging out, so we didn't see many other people who could have pressured us...So it was on us alone when we decided the time was right.
I don't regret it, and sex for us was something of love. I was 16, the legal age where I live, and although I wasn't the first person I knew that was sexually active, a lot of my friends weren't and I think that made them feel...curious as to what it was like.
Sadly though, as we all have grown older, many of my friends have never been in a long-term, stable relationship yet have had sexual experiences with several people (not always sex but pretty much everything else)...This is totally against what I believe in, because I don't think it's right to just go off with anybody when you barely know them...Although I have had sex, I would never have sexual relations with someone I hadn't been in a relationship with for a few months, it's just not right to act slutty and easy.
This is what put's pressure on me. Because I feel that my moral values are totally opposite from those of my peers and I don't think I'm perceived as being a prude, but i think people think I don't want to 'have fun' just because I don't believe in one time things...It put's strain on my friendships as I like these people, but disagree with the things they do personally, however we are all adults so there is no point trying to change them...
So, I think there are two sides to this pressure. Pressure on people who have had sex, and those who haven't. People's moral beliefs are being attacked and those who do not conform to social 'norms' are the ones who are left feeling alienated.
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Post by Wolfdude on Apr 1, 2010 9:45:58 GMT -5
Yes im preasured but only by myself and hormons XD
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Post by TsukikoSuoh on Apr 1, 2010 16:07:24 GMT -5
My school is full of pregnant teens, and many of my friends are not virgins, or haven't been for a while. One of my friends has had 1 abortion while in high school, and now that she's graduated she is trying for a kid and has had several miscarriages in the past few months. So, naturally, I know a lot about sex in general.
I am a virgin (I'm 17) but I've spoken so much about the topic of sex including which positions and such that I don't act very much like one. Many of my friends can't believe I am a virgin, but I've never had the chance to lose my virginity and if I had the chance it was either with a creeper or just unnoticed. I don't have any sure plans for my v-card, what happens happens, I'm not going to 'wait for marriage' if I meet someone I'm comfortable with having sex with. But that's just the way I see things.
I'm not REALLY pressured into having sex, at least not blatantly; many of my friends are having sex, many of my friends make jokes about having sex *sometimes with me* but none of it is taken very seriously. Even if, in general, my friends feel pressured into having sex, it won't really affect me because I don't really care much about my v-card. Life is life and things happen that you can't change, so why bother trying to stop them, in my opinion.
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Post by jaw on Apr 1, 2010 17:12:14 GMT -5
I am, but quite honestly I could lose it if I wanted to. I'm just old fashioned. :V But, Chuck Norris, I thought you lost your virginity before your father did?! |
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