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Post by risingphoenix89 on May 19, 2010 14:32:33 GMT -5
She's white. And honestly, It didn't really click for me that ours was an interracial relationship until I read this thread. I'm so not used to hearing that term, and I've barely used it myself.
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Post by atrickett on May 19, 2010 17:16:17 GMT -5
hehe I tried to...
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Post by Helmet on May 19, 2010 17:36:29 GMT -5
I don't think this is much of a debate, more of a thread where people are mostly agreeing with each other... like a "UN-bate"
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Post by halfthecarbs on May 19, 2010 18:00:38 GMT -5
risingphoenix89 and halfthecarbs: What's your girlfriend's (or boyfriend's?) race? I'm white, and she's black. But it really doesn't seem like it's an interracial thing, it's just a normal relationship. My parents and family didn't make a big deal about it, and nether did hers.
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Post by thequirkyduo on May 19, 2010 19:15:22 GMT -5
I don't think race matters in terms of a relationship. A person is a person, regardless of the color of their skin. I wouldn't have a problem dating someone of another race- or if anyone I know was in an interracial relationship. Regardless, its none of my business who other people like.
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Post by richie on May 23, 2010 16:19:05 GMT -5
SHIRT, I don't have a problem with it at all, I was born in england and my girl was born in germany, but we are both white so I'm not sure if that counts us as ''interracial''... ''International'' maybe? But saying we have that soudns like we live apart My girlfriend though has...... Different thought on race than me, that's a bugger.
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Post by knightofarboria on May 24, 2010 20:32:44 GMT -5
You can't control who anyone loves, much less who you or your children love. It's none of my business if folks choose to partake in interracial relations; so long as they're happy together, race shouldn't be a factor.
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Post by telmac on May 25, 2010 13:39:43 GMT -5
I mean, relationships should only be about love, nothing else.
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Post by qooqǝɯɐƃ on May 26, 2010 20:50:47 GMT -5
wow I personally don't even think this question needs to be asked. NOBODY I know cares about what colour your skin is. Some will joke, but nobody's racist. I guess that's Canada for you....
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Post by RandiKthxxx on May 27, 2010 14:47:18 GMT -5
wow I personally don't even think this question needs to be asked. NOBODY I know cares about what colour your skin is. Some will joke, but nobody's racist. I guess that's Canada for you.... I'm sure there's racist people in Canada.
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Post by qooqǝɯɐƃ on May 27, 2010 19:33:23 GMT -5
wow I personally don't even think this question needs to be asked. NOBODY I know cares about what colour your skin is. Some will joke, but nobody's racist. I guess that's Canada for you.... I'm sure there's racist people in Canada. Yea I wouldn't doubt it, but likely very few are the youngest generation. And it's certainly not accepted here in Vancouver. My girlfriend though has...... Different thought on race than me, that's a bugger. lol would it be wrong to say it's because she's German..?
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Post by tveir on May 27, 2010 21:27:36 GMT -5
Funny thing about interracial relationships - I've never once seen anything weird in relationships with fairly sharp racial differences, having been surrounded by them my whole life, and yet I remember being slightly weirded out when my (very white) cousin married an (also very white) blonde girl.
It can't have been a personality thing, because I wasn't very close with that particular cousin and had never spoken to the girl. And it's not like I don't have blonde relatives either.
I don't really mind it, I just remember being really weirded out.
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Post by ladystardust on Jun 2, 2010 16:56:20 GMT -5
Did you not read my post? I said Eastern Asians as well. I used Indians as an example because I have the most knowledge of their culture. I know, for a fact, every Indian female I know who is either from India or is a first generation American is not allowed to date outside their race. And I'm not saying two or three girls, I'm talking dozens. My roommate, for example, isn't even allowed to date outside of her caste. Because, what she has told me, of her parents' prejudice with other castes. I know Indian girls who are free to date any Indians, but my roommate has it a bit more tough. Well don't forget to tell them-- Here in America, they make up their own minds, whether their parents like it or not. That won't necessarily work as well as you'd like. While I don't have the source to link right now, I remember an instance where an Indian woman was murdered by her brother for divorcing her [abusive] Indian husband. He was found guilty of murder and sent to jail, of course, but when he was released, his family welcomed him back with open arms. You can scream about adopting the Western way of life until your blue in the face, but some religious extremists will NOT change their cultural values after emigrating. It's unfortunate, but true.
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Post by ladystardust on Jun 2, 2010 17:01:58 GMT -5
personaly i like interracial relationships you know what they say darker the berry sweeter the juice Not sure if this quote first emerged in the musical Hairspray, but that is definitely what comes to mind when I read this!! This also reminds me of another quote [from the film version, at the very least]: Motormouth Maybelle- "Well, love is a gift, a lot of people don't remember that. So, you two better brace yourselves for a whole lotta ugly comin' at you from a never-ending parade of stupid." While I firmly believe that there is nothing wrong with interracial relationships, I do believe it is important that the couple have the discussion about how difficult it might be for them, depending where they live. Some areas of even Canada and the Unites States are rife with racism. As long as they are aware of the risks, and have agreed to weather them together, I wish them all the luck and love life has to offer. But I do believe that it is essential they not ignore the risks.
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Post by low on Jun 3, 2010 0:09:37 GMT -5
I'm against interracial relationships. People should not date animals...
"Race" doesn't actually exist within humans. There's "the human race," but that doesn't separate humans into groups.
Anyway, I don't see why something arbitrary as a person's ethnic heritage should have anything to do with whether or not they should or should not be allowed to be in a relationship. That would be a huge impinging of personal freedoms, were it illegal (which it has been and may still remain in parts of the world).
As for compatibility, etc., you could find way more logical barriers. I see more reason for a Muslim to not be in a relationship with an atheist than I do for a black person to not be in a relationship with a white person, etc.. There's no lifestyle (inherently) involved with ethnicity. Or how about fat people and athletic people? That's a far more logically constructed lifestyle barrier.
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Post by penguinpalsrkewl on Jun 3, 2010 0:58:46 GMT -5
I personally have no problems with it. However I remember I talked to my mom about it once.She told me that she'd rather me marry someone who is also Chinese. She doesn't mind who in general, she'd just rather. It is mostly a cultural thing, not really "skin color" or "personality" or anything. I think it's about cultural traditions, or carrying on a families culture. Like... a traditional chinese wedding is different than a westerners wedding, so maybe they want to try and preserve that cultural tradition. The way a family works is different between different cultures. I don't know how else to explain it. My mom also said something about how our bodies function differently. I dunno... something about other people are allowed to have cold drinks in the morning (milk, OJ) but I can't because I have an asian body so I have to drink warm things like tea (ridiculous right?). I have no idea what this has to do with anything, just.... yeah. Preserving cultural traditions.
So although I'm all for it, I do see why some people might be against it. People from the last generation grew up living in an only chinese house or an only white house or an only black house or something, and it might be surprising for them to see now, so many people in interracial relationships.
One more thing. I know my family has always been chinese, up until last year when my cousin married a white guy and just had their baby a few weeks ago. My parents were the first generation to move to America, before that, they grew up with my grandparents in a very traditional chinese culture.
There you go.
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Post by evethor on Jun 3, 2010 9:04:51 GMT -5
Aye here there be many a wise word.
Most people who are against intercultural relationships (I hate the term interracial, we are all humans just slightly different) Are against it mainly due to the other person coming from another culture. My parents are traditionalists and short sighted so when I brought this up a few years ago they clearly stated that. "If you are going to date/marry someone with another skin color that person must come from Scandinavia (they later included England, Finland and Iceland.) So yeah another skin color is fine but don`t you dare bring home someone with another culture.
I clearly stated that I would do as I thought right in the matter. In response they just snorted and said it would never work out.
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Post by Trent on Jun 7, 2010 11:38:44 GMT -5
I never pay attention to race. I didn't really realize that Barack Obama was African-American until I met him.
I come from a multi-racial family. I have an Asian sister, Hispanic brother, and an African-American sister. Not to mention my own mixed background. So its not something I actually notice, or pay attention to.
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Post by krzych32 on Jun 7, 2010 15:30:35 GMT -5
@trent, I'm sorry to tell you this, but it looks like all of you were adopted......
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Post by velvetdivorce on Jun 26, 2010 18:16:16 GMT -5
I'm against interracial relationships. People should not date animals... "Race" doesn't actually exist within humans. There's "the human race," but that doesn't separate humans into groups. Anyway, I don't see why something arbitrary as a person's ethnic heritage should have anything to do with whether or not they should or should not be allowed to be in a relationship. That would be a huge impinging of personal freedoms, were it illegal (which it has been and may still remain in parts of the world). As for compatibility, etc., you could find way more logical barriers. I see more reason for a Muslim to not be in a relationship with an atheist than I do for a black person to not be in a relationship with a white person, etc.. There's no lifestyle (inherently) involved with ethnicity. Or how about fat people and athletic people? That's a far more logically constructed lifestyle barrier. Ahahaha! I love what you've done here. You know, people start reading and steam starts coming out of their ears. Then they read on and feel foolish. Excellent.
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